December 31, 2008
1. This too shall pass.
2. You are not the only one. It happens every day.
3. You will love again. I promise.
4. Make the best of a bad situation. Listen to your favorite holiday music (only happy songs), bake some brownies, or watch your favorite movie.
5. Smiling makes you feel better.
6. There are people who love you.
7. Its almost over. Stay strong.
8. If you dont want to decorate, you dont have to.
9. Look at childhood photo albums. It will bring back wonderful memories.
10. Hug your kids. Their love is unconditional.
11. Think about the lesson you learned from this and dont make the same mistake twice.
12. Online dating profiles are just a click away.
13. Phone a friend. Go out and find some Holiday cheer.
December 29, 2008
December 26, 2008
Time goes by so quickly but I find that when I'm listening to my classic rock, it takes me back. Don't you have those songs from your past that bring back all sorts of memories? Your first kiss? Losing your virginity? Hanging out with friends? MTV when they had no commercials? Those were the good ole' days. I don't think I could ever get sick of listening to Elton John. Does this make me old? Nah...does it mean I'm stuck in time?? Nope...it just means that I love to listen to music that makes me feel good. I cant go a day at work without listening to my tunes. Ive tried to mix it up a bit but I always come back to the classics. Those were good times!
December 23, 2008
December 22, 2008
1. When faced with this issue, it is best to ignore and move on. Do not show any interest with this person for he or she will feed on your reactions.
2. Do not react on what this person does to you. Don't speak or show any sign that he or she is really getting to you, because this will keep them going.
3. Most of the time you dont know the person that you are talking to. You need to stay on your toes because it is very easy to trick anyone online. Don't put any of your life history and personal information including your full real name online. I know you would think this is a given but people do it all the time.
There are quite a few places a stalker can find you. Myspace is a perfect example. They did an investigation and found thousands of pedophiles on this site. Young girls are the easiest target but so are desperate people. If you are freshly out of a relationship, you could be the perfect target. Watch yourself. If the person does not stop after being asked, you might want to consider legal action. It's happened to me. Not the legal action part but being cyberstalked. I no longer use my Instant Messenger and I feel much safer.
December 19, 2008
We have planned a trip for him to stay with his Dad in Tennessee after graduation. They never had the chance to develop a relationship and I think it will do them both good. I know my son though. I'm not sure if he can stay any place too far from his Mom. I hope when he gets out there, it will push him to excel and do something for himself. He's such a good kid and has never given me any grief besides his grades and the laziness he inherited from God knows who. He will make a wonderful husband to a woman that can cook, clean, and tolerate video games. Funny thing about that kid, he is smarter than me. He can do anything he wants....but I prefer him to do it in his own place. Does that make me a bad Mom?
December 18, 2008
My guilty pleasure for the week is my love for John Saul. Have any of you read his books? I just finished The God Project. A story of things happening to the children in Eastbury Massachusetts. Something that causes healthy babies to turn cold in their cribs. An entire town waits on the edge of panic for the next nightmare. You're never sure who is the bad guy and who is the good guy. This was a great story that kept me guessing all the way to the end, and then what a twist! It is one of many books I have read that he has written.
The book that got me hooked was The Manhattan Hunt Club. It is a story of a falsely convicted college student who's future vanishes before his eyes. Soon, he finds himself beneath the teeming streets of Manhattan, in a hidden landscape of twisting tunnels and forgotten subterranean chambers. There, an invisible popluation of homeless and desperate people have carved out their own shadow society. Someone planned for him to be there, but why?? You will have to read the book and find out. We also just discovered that the story was based on actual tunnels under the city. They are going to do a special on them this month. That makes it even more intense.
His expertise is drama with a touch of horror. I have yet to see a romantic moment in any of his books. He goes where alot of authors wont. I gave away all of my Danielle Steel novels and replaced them with John Saul. If you ask me, he's one of the best writers out there. Love him!!
December 17, 2008
Why are we always fighting for something or with someone? Our ex husbands, the child support agencies, the crooks that steal our money (Supportkids), and bosses or coworkers that could care less about how difficult they make our lives. Isn't it tough enough to be a single parent without these added stresses? I feel, at times, that society has closed the door on us and our needs. We live in a world dictated by people that have the ability to hire and fire us at the drop of a hat. Remember when they actually needed a reason to fire you? First the verbal warning, then the written, then possible disciplinary action or termination. When did companies get the right to change the laws? I don't think any company should be able to fire someone because they feel like it. Today, however, you sign a contract when you are hired stating that you are an "At Will" employee. No, I haven't lost my job but other people have. This is simply a post, as all of my posts are, of something I feel strongly about. Maybe I'm just preaching from my soap box but those of you that have never had to experience this type of behavior, couldn't possibly understand it. And, if you are the boss of a single parent, don't treat us any different. With everything we have on our plate, how could you possible get gratification by kicking someone when they are down? We are hard workers. Give us a break. That isnt a ticket to be a jerk, and if you think it is, maybe you're in the wrong position at your job. Bosses need to be fair, no matter what your line of work is. We should all be treated as equals and with respect. Being a single parents shouldnt be a factor, our job performance should speak for itself. Am I right?
December 15, 2008
I don't think changing your hair color means changing who you are, its simply enhancing it. And if you like what you see in the mirror, why does it matter what other people think? Back in the day, everyone wanted to look like Farrah Fawcett, so we all went blonde. Remember "Sun In"? That stuff you put in your hair and then laid in the sun? How many ended up with orange hair? What about the blonde jokes? I think I have heard a million of them. So I ask, why would anyone change their hair color to be compared with someone stupid? And why, if you're blonde, would you automatically be put into a retard category? My bf is blonde and he is exceptionally smart. Maybe the blonde jokes are aimed at female's only. Isn't that a bit prejudice? I would like to know if hair color has changed anyones life drastically? And if so, did you go dark to light or light to dark? Honestly, I think its who you are and not your hair color. However, I could be wrong......
That being said, I have an opinion about that witch Corinne from this seasons show. I have never seen someone with so little class on the history of Survivor. What she said to Sugar was inexcusable. Anyone that would go on national TV and disrespect someone's dead father should be banned from any affiliation with the show. She claimed to be smarter than most, yet she didn't make it to the final three. Obviously, she isn't as smart as she thinks she is. If so, should would have won. And Randy, no wonder he is alone. How sad it must be to have such a mean demeanor. If the only person that wants to get close to you has four paws and a tail, maybe you should work on your people skills. I couldn't imagine spending any time with someone like that, let alone 39 days. I'm glad Bob won, but I honestly wish it would have been Sugar. So what if she cried and showed some emotion. She was real and played one heck of a game. I hope this show brings her some sort of success.
As for me, I will continue to watch Survivor until the end. Next stop....BRAZIL!! Come on 2009.
December 14, 2008
If you are thinking about spending money to actually see this, don't waste your cash. I wouldn't even recommend the video. Its that bad. I give this two VERY BIG thumbs down.
December 13, 2008
When you put yourself out there and fall in love, there are never any guarantee's. You also cant choose the person you love. Its just something that happens. If the relationship ended, try to look at it from the outside in. See if there was a lesson to be learned and remember the good times. I believe that everything happens for reason. People come in and out of our life every day. Don't let another person dictate your existence. Remember who you were before they were there. I know that's not always easy. Its kind of like trying to stop a cut from bleeding with a bandaid. It doesn't stop the blood, it works more as a support to help the wound heal. Look for your own support system. I'm not saying something to numb the pain but let yourself hurt and mourn the loss. Then move on. You must not let the pain control your life or happiness. We are all special in our own way. Trust me, there will be someone else and you will love again. Get through the holidays the best that you can and enjoy spending time with your family. After all, they were the ones that loved you first. Remember that.
December 12, 2008
December 11, 2008
Love making means more between two people that actually love each other. I love a manly man but only in certain aspects. When it comes to being intimate, a man needs to make his woman feel beautiful and wanted. Sex should not be expected just because, you need to work up to it. That's why alot of women see it as a chore who have been married for a while. The man has forgotten the romance. We would be much quicker to jump in the sack if the feeling was mutual. Unfortunately, it takes us a little longer to get motivated. With all of the things we are responsible for day after day, you don't have much energy come night fall. If a man helped with the chores and kids, that would leave us with alot more charisma. I don't know about you but a man that does house work gets me hot just watching him. If he thinks enough about me to cook, do the dishes, make the bed, vacuum...then I'm more apt to show him just how much I appreciate him in the bedroom. Anyone can have sex, and sometimes its all you both need. Making love, on the other hand, is a deep connection. Have you ever had sex with a one night stand and walked away feeling good?OK...maybe, but the satisfaction you feel after a night of love making is like no other. Am I right on this one?
December 10, 2008
1. You no longer have anything in common - conversation is a thing of the past.
2. You can do no right - They find fault in everything you do.
3. You are the last to know - When you become the last to know important information there has been a huge breakdown in communication. You should be the first.
4. A change in appearance - He/She use to dress up for you and look their best. Now, they no longer care.
5. Looking for distractions from problems - Has your TV replaced communication? It is common for people to find such distractions to avoid dealing with a troubled marriage and/or relationship.
6. Arguing over the same subject repeatedly - If your arguments become routine with all the same issues and no resolution, then your marriage and/or relationship is either standing still or dying fast.
7. Sex and intimacy is a thing of the past - to explanation needed for this one.
8. Trust issues - Trust is the absolute most essential part of a successful relationship, and without trust everything else will eventually collapse.
9. Do you want different things? - Are you no longer working towards the same goal?
10. Boredom - Nothing kills a marriage like a lack of passion and excitement.
11. Is he/she cheating? - Did you catch them in the act or suspect they're having an affair?
12. Are there more Con's than Pro's? - Are you miserable more than happy?
13. Do you love them but no longer like them? - Yes, you can love someone but dislike the person they are.
December 8, 2008
I know many woman are fashion savvy. We shop until we drop and rarely go home empty handed. Looking our best is something we pride ourselves on, especially on the outside. What about what’s underneath? I did some shopping recently and came home with a few things that accentuate the curves that I have. Since I am a single mother, most of my clothes were purchased at Wal-Mart when my kids were growing up. Shoes were always bought at Payless. Now that my kids are older, its time to spend a little extra on Mom. I went into one of the stores at the mall and something caught my eye. It was the most beautiful bra I had ever seen. Black with little sparkly things all over it. I tried it on. Wow!! Did it make my boobs look great? Not only that, but huge.
I’m not small chested. I’ve been a C forever. This bra turned my average C in to a knock out D. Yes, there is padding, but the way that it pushes up gives me cleavage I never knew I had. My man absolutely loves the new look. I find myself wearing shirts that show off my cleavage. Not to mention, the added attention. That wasn’t my intention but it’s funny, if you wear a shirt showing a little chest, the men look. I did a blog earlier about boob jobs. If you buy a bra like this, you won’t need one. Men act totally different around women that show a little boob. I always speculated but never experienced it. My man called me a MLF. That’s funny. For those of you who don’t know what it stands for….its “Mother Id Like to F@$&.” That made me feel beautiful. I know a lot of you are no strangers to sexy Lingerie, but this is all new to me. The price I paid was more than I use to spend on bras in a year. I think it’s worth it though, so much so, that I bought 2 more! Do you girls know the bra’s I’m talking about?
December 6, 2008
As many of you know, Ive been on Nutrisystems for a little over 2 months. I started it because my employers at divorce360 wanted to pay for 3 of us to do Nutrisystems, it return, we had to blog about it daily. It wasn't a competition but rather, an honest look at the diet itself. They paid for 30 days. After that, we were on our own. The other 2 people dropped it but I decided to stay. Now, I'm down 21 pounds going into week 9. Some people have criticised the food but its not all bad. You have to remember, this isn't food you would eat at a fine dinning restaurant. Its a diet. With my last shipment of food, they sent me a 10 pound weight loss bear. Since then, Ive lost another 11 pounds. How did they know I lost the weight you ask? Their site has a place for your progress. You weigh in daily, or when you get the chance, and in return it gives you a graph of your starting weight, your current weight, and your goal along with your BMI. I like to watch the graft do down as I get closer to my goal. It gives me satisfaction and incentive.
I have my favorites and with Nutrisystems, you can choose your own menu. There are things I wouldn't order again, but that's with any restaurant menu. It costs me 234.00 a month, which is a bit steep but I am getting results. Not to mention, my complexion has completely cleared. I had no idea I would get an added bonus as well. Ive decided the hamburgers are my favorite, this week anyway. Its funny though, they are freeze dried. You have to add boiling water, let it set for 2 minutes, and it turns into a hamburger. Very strange. Also with the plan, you get to eat lots of salad, fruits, vegetables, and yogurt. I'm on the flex plan, which means, I eat their food 5 days a week and normal food 2 days a week. I do my flex days on the weekend. I was afraid at first that eating normal food would hurt my chances of losing more. That hasn't been the case. They give you guidelines to follow and you really need to watch your portions. I have found that making wise decisions isn't as hard as you would think. I feel great and everyone tells me I look great. What more could I ask for?? Another 40 pounds would be good. If you are thinking about doing this program, you have to give 100 percent. You cant eat their food and cheat when you feel like it because then you will get no results. I have been losing 2 1/2 pounds a week and that's a healthy amount to lose. I cant tell you how much better I feel in general and about myself. It really does work!
December 5, 2008
The San Diego Chargers VS. The Oakland Raiders. I have never attended a professional football game. It was alot different than I expected.
Then I looked around at all of the tailgate parties. It was like nothing I have ever seen before. Chargers and Raiders fans side by side grilling hamburgers, drinking beer, and having a great time.
The stadium was huge. Its funny, I was so worried about dressing in a Chargers shirt because I THOUGHT I was sitting on the Raiders side. Nope...it appears the WHOLE stadium is the Chargers side. The Raider fans were a bit outnumberd.
DBF Michael was very excited for the game to start. He had high hopes for his Raiders!
You hear all of the trash talk about the Raider fans, but the Charger fans were just as bad. After alot of beer drinking, people started to get a bit carried away. Nothing major but you could definitely feel the tension between the fans.
In the end, the Chargers ended up beating the Raiders 34 to 7. I found myself rooting for both teams. DBF Michael was not happy with the score but I think we both had a nice time.
I would definitely do it again!
December 3, 2008
Jes tagged me. She wanted me to stop what I was doing and take a pic of myself.
So I did. Here I am in all my glory after a long day at work and a couple of hours on the computer. Scary, huh??? lol
Here were the instructions:
5. Tag 10 people to do this. And don't forget to leave them a message about the tag.
1. Take into account that great love and great achievement involve great risk (no pain, no gain).
2. When you lose, dont lose the lesson. Learn from your mistakes.
3. Remember that not getting what you want can sometimes be an open door for something better.
4. Dont let an argument injure a great relationship.
5. When you find out you've made a mistake, correct it.
6. Spend some time alone every day.
7. Open your mind to change but dont let go of your values.
8. Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer (I need to practice this one).
9. A loving atmosphere in your home is the foundation for your life. Trust is the key.
10. In disagreements with loved ones, deal only with the current issue. Dont bring up the past (yep, I need to practice this one too).
11. If you're mad, count to 10 before you open your mouth. It can make all the difference in the world.
12. Do onto others as you would have them do onto you.
13. Go someplace new every year that you have never been before.
December 2, 2008
December 1, 2008
Watch their eye movement - The eyes of dishonest people will tend to move around a lot to avoid meeting your gaze. However, staring at your eyes for prolonged periods is also an indicator of a lie.
Are they defensive? Guilty people usually get defensive at the first indication of an accusation whereas honest people will get offensive.
How is their stance? - Liars often feel uncomfortable standing directly in front of an accuser and may avoid standing with their shoulders squared to yours. Instead, they might stand slightly to the side or with their shoulders offset.
Look at their expressions - Expressions are limited to the mouth, e.g. if a liar fakes a smile, he will only use selected muscles whereas a natural smile utilizes muscles over the whole face.
Are they playing with something? Liars will play with objects in their possession such as a handbag, bracelet, mobile phone or hair. They may also put an obstruction between themselves and the other person, often something as simple as a coffee cup. This is a subconscious way of attempting to ‘barricade' themselves to relieve the tension of lying.
Watch that tone - A liar's tone of voice is often not consistent with his/her gestures or statements.
What are they saying? Dishonest people will often use sarcasm when answering accusations.
Did they answer your question? - A liar uses your words to answer questions, e.g. Q: "Did you have sexual relations with this woman?" A: "I did not have sexual relations with that woman."
Check out the details - Dishonest people will add unnecessary detail to the conversation; this is an attempt to comfort the other person.
Did it make sense? Often liars' words won't make sense and their grammar may be incorrect. This is because a liar's mind is racing in search of a convincing answer and the signals to the mouth are sent incorrectly.
Many people feel that by choosing hospice, they have given up. That isn't necessarily the case. We have had people discharge off of hospice and decide that further aggressive treatment would be a better option. However, in order to qualify for our programs, a physician makes the determination that the person is terminally ill and would not benefit from aggressive treatment. Physicians aren't God though. All they can do is speculate, miracles happen every day. Our staff is on call 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Considering I spent 15 years working for hospitals and medical groups trying to cure the sick, this was a completely different avenue to take. It has completely changed my aspect of the service in general. I started this job the same week my father died. How is that for timing? They were the most understanding people I could have hoped for. Not only was I paid for bereavement, but I got comfort from all the staff, including the Chaplin. I want people to know that hospice isn't a bad thing. They provide pain relief and try to make your last days on earth as comfortable as possible. It isn't for everyone but don't count it out completely because of the title. Hospice companies are available all over the world. If you have questions, don't be afraid to ask. They understand your concerns and are there to help.