tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7743882718798327691.post6559649918147320427..comments2023-11-03T06:32:55.495-07:00Comments on Single Parents Unite: ContemptLorihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17819332544413521893noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7743882718798327691.post-37007555177531499682008-07-23T19:12:00.000-07:002008-07-23T19:12:00.000-07:00You know...I dont really think about it when he is...You know...I dont really think about it when he is home in another state. Its when he is here that I get angry. He's been here for almost a week and hasnt come to see his son. That makes me sick. However, you are right. The kids come to their own conclusion. Once he's gone...its back to life as usual:)Lorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17819332544413521893noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7743882718798327691.post-26808176449404252142008-07-23T09:27:00.000-07:002008-07-23T09:27:00.000-07:00I've been there and truly understand your sentimen...I've been there and truly understand your sentiments. However, your anger and contempt really is hurting you, not him. Try to think how sad it is that he will never have the relationship or history with your kids that you do and how much he missed by choosing not to be there. I still tend to get angry with the ex when he STILL lets our adult kids down but most of the time I just think how pathetic he is. The kids and I have discovered that you just have to have absolutely NO expectations and then you'll be less disappointed and/or angry.<BR/><BR/>The good news - both of mine have learned to deal with their dad on their own terms and both are happily married and thriving.Debbie@Like a Rosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07595737927336471561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7743882718798327691.post-38747220255954248682008-07-22T19:28:00.000-07:002008-07-22T19:28:00.000-07:00Well, I can relate from your children's point of v...Well, I can relate from your children's point of view. My dad did us the same way. My mom never got any child support from him. He put the blame on her as to why he didn't see us. She wouldn't let him. But, as I got older I realized that he was lying. He moved back to this state to be a part of my life (and my sister) as well as our children. He still doesn't come around. I always invite him. He says he will come, but he never shows. It's just one disappointment after another. It's very sad. I can't imagine doing my children that way. :(Crazy Working Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12323941603495204996noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7743882718798327691.post-49798213429266373672008-07-22T08:32:00.000-07:002008-07-22T08:32:00.000-07:00Agree with you, my friend.Agree with you, my friend.Chelle Y.https://www.blogger.com/profile/04629452656021109729noreply@blogger.com