November 5, 2008
Birthday blues
My birthday is November 6th. For as long as I can remember, it’s always been a time of grief for me. Why? I don’t know. I have had people I love very much die this time of year so I always thought that was the answer. Well, this year I’m not depressed. I don’t know if it’s the Flaxseed oil I’ve been taking or the Nutrisystems diet I have been on, but I actually feel good. Turning 42 isn’t the end of the world. Ya, I would love to be 10 years younger but I’m not. I have gained a lot of wisdom in my years so the gray that I cover up every 6 weeks is earned. Every strand. As long as there is Clairol though, I will never let is grow out. Heck, I don’t even remember the color of my hair. I think its dark auburn but when I look at the roots, it’s some awful brown color. Yuck!! Plastic surgery isn’t something I would consider at this stage of the game. I have oily skin; therefore, I don’t have wrinkles. Not yet anyway. People tell me all the time they can’t believe I have a 20 year old in the military. So, I will take that as a compliment. And of course, I am 11 months younger that DBF Michael. That is something that will NEVER change. I have my own home, a man that loves me, a wonderful family, 2 awesome kids, and a job I no longer hate. I have a lot to be thankful for. This year, although I won’t be eating my traditional birthday cake because it’s not on my diet, I will embrace my life and eat my Nutrisystems dinner with a smile. Life is good.
TT #82
13 Phrases Googled to find my blog......
1. Marriage counseling does it work?
2. Im sorry.
3. K-Y Commercials.
4. Can I take mucinex and tylenol at the same time?
5. My sons feet are.....
6. Definition of parents love.
7. Car salesmen are jerks!
8. Gastric band and ID cards.
9. Do you stay for the children?
10. Free relationship in love boys and girls.
11. Contract with supportkids.(Man, I sure hope they didnt sign!)
12. Sheer cover make up complaints.
13. Topless saleswomen legal Liverpool England tropical fish stores.(WTF?)
November 4, 2008
November 3, 2008
Is there really a way to stop Supportkids?
I get alot of responses regarding my posts on Supportkids. As many of you know, Ive been doing battle with those crooks for years. Its a vicious cycle that never ends. I request termination, they deny me. Well, another reader has had experience with this company and gave me some advise I would like to pass along. If you are fed up with the run around, maybe this will work for you:
1. Contact the employers and your child support agencies via certified mail and have them change the address from Supportkid's address back to your own address. Supportkids does direct deposit of all the checks received.
2. Have your child support agency redirect the deposit back to you or have them mail you a check directly.
3. Contact the employers and have them stop providing Supportkids with information. Inform them that no changes can be made without your written consent by a notarized letter. If this works, the payment will come right to you.
When I contacted the DA's office, they basically said it was my fault for signing the contract and that it couldn't legally be modified. However, it may be different in your state. I live in California. If this helps one single parent in their quest to terminate the dreaded contract with Supportkids, then my blog has done its job. Thank you all for your input. I read everything and pass on any information that I think would be helpful. If you try it, let me know the results. I'm sure many parents would love to see this company go out of business!
1. Contact the employers and your child support agencies via certified mail and have them change the address from Supportkid's address back to your own address. Supportkids does direct deposit of all the checks received.
2. Have your child support agency redirect the deposit back to you or have them mail you a check directly.
3. Contact the employers and have them stop providing Supportkids with information. Inform them that no changes can be made without your written consent by a notarized letter. If this works, the payment will come right to you.
When I contacted the DA's office, they basically said it was my fault for signing the contract and that it couldn't legally be modified. However, it may be different in your state. I live in California. If this helps one single parent in their quest to terminate the dreaded contract with Supportkids, then my blog has done its job. Thank you all for your input. I read everything and pass on any information that I think would be helpful. If you try it, let me know the results. I'm sure many parents would love to see this company go out of business!
November 2, 2008
Horoscopes and compatibility
I believe in the stars. Not the ones you see on TV, but astrology. In the past, I would base alot of decisions, especially in relationships, on what they had to say about my potential partner. Silly? Ya, probably. I think its interesting to read about yourself. Your good points and bad (although you know them already), having someone else point it out to you without even know you is a trip. They also speculate who you are the most compatible with and who you're not. Funny, if I had listened to what they said about Scorpios and Sagittarius, I wouldn't be in the relationship I'm in now. Ive always been drawn to Sagittarius and I'm not sure why. Three very important relationships in my life were Sagittarius. And its funny, their birthdays are within a week of each other. They have alot of the same characteristics but each one very is different.
DBF Michael is the closest Ive been to a man, while being in a relationship. Meaning, he's my best friend too. When something happens in my day, he's the first one I want to tell. He always has alot to say, and I'm there to listen. Scorpios aren't really verbal unless they have an opinion about something. Idle chit-chat isn't something we do. He talks, I listen, and it works. We debate, dont get me wrong, but we also laugh at each other too. We are two completely different people, but isnt that how relationships are supposed to work? Opposites attract, right? Many people don't believe in this stuff but have you ever sat down and read about your sign? Its pretty funny. Now, look at the compatibility between you and your partner. Is there any truth there? If you keep going with the same type of guy, start asking them their sign. Maybe, they have more in common with each other than you think!
DBF Michael is the closest Ive been to a man, while being in a relationship. Meaning, he's my best friend too. When something happens in my day, he's the first one I want to tell. He always has alot to say, and I'm there to listen. Scorpios aren't really verbal unless they have an opinion about something. Idle chit-chat isn't something we do. He talks, I listen, and it works. We debate, dont get me wrong, but we also laugh at each other too. We are two completely different people, but isnt that how relationships are supposed to work? Opposites attract, right? Many people don't believe in this stuff but have you ever sat down and read about your sign? Its pretty funny. Now, look at the compatibility between you and your partner. Is there any truth there? If you keep going with the same type of guy, start asking them their sign. Maybe, they have more in common with each other than you think!
October 30, 2008
Waivers for college students
Did you know that the federal government does not consider the income/assets of the non-custodial parent when determining a student's financial need (even though it does consider child support received by the custodial parent). However, many private colleges do take into account the income and assets of the non-custodial parent, even if he/she does not want to contribute to college costs. These colleges require a supplemental financial aid form from the non-custodial parent. The supplemental aid form from the non-custodial parent will affect the awarding of the school's own aid but not federal and state aid. In special circumstances, some private colleges may waive the requirements for non-custodial parent information. Meeting one or more of the following criteria would not automatically qualify a single parent household for a waiver, but it would cause the college to consider giving a waiver:
1. The non-custodial parent cannot be located.
2. The non-custodial parent has not made child support payments recently or consistently.
3. The divorce or separation took place so long ago that it is unreasonable to expect a contribution from the non-custodial parent.
4. The non-custodial parent has a history of abuse or neglect with the child or other parent.
Documentation, such as court records, of the above criteria would be required in order to be considered for a waiver of the non-custodial parent information. If you get divorced when your children are very young, most people don't consider college into their divorce decree. They should. I know that grants are issued in many circumstances and I suggest applying for all of them. Dont forget to ask about the waiver as well. If you get approved for only one grant, at least that will help your child with some of the money owed. Many people work their way thru college with a heavy loan to pay back at the end. If you can take some of that load off of their shoulders, why wouldn't you? Plan ahead and think smart. It your child's future.
1. The non-custodial parent cannot be located.
2. The non-custodial parent has not made child support payments recently or consistently.
3. The divorce or separation took place so long ago that it is unreasonable to expect a contribution from the non-custodial parent.
4. The non-custodial parent has a history of abuse or neglect with the child or other parent.
Documentation, such as court records, of the above criteria would be required in order to be considered for a waiver of the non-custodial parent information. If you get divorced when your children are very young, most people don't consider college into their divorce decree. They should. I know that grants are issued in many circumstances and I suggest applying for all of them. Dont forget to ask about the waiver as well. If you get approved for only one grant, at least that will help your child with some of the money owed. Many people work their way thru college with a heavy loan to pay back at the end. If you can take some of that load off of their shoulders, why wouldn't you? Plan ahead and think smart. It your child's future.
October 29, 2008
October 28, 2008
Depression
Something that affects most everyone at some time in their life is depression. I'm not talking about a bad day, because we all have those. Extended periods lasting days, weeks, months, and sometimes years is what I'm focusing on. How does it happen and where do you find the strength to overcome it? Most people turn to medication. That could be good or bad. Speaking from experience, I tried the alternative to natural happiness and ventured down the path of Effexor. It took a while to make a difference, but once it did, I found myself more carefree than I had ever been in my life. What a wonderful drug, I thought to myself. That lasted about 6 months. I then came to the realization that if I wanted to continue feeling like this, I would never be able to quit. That scared me a bit. I wanted to be happy but I wanted to deal with what was making me depressed in the first place and overcome it myself. So I quit. After a week of hardcore withdrawal, I finally felt normal again. The funny thing is, I realized the thing that was making me so unhappy had actually ran its course and I was able to cope on my own. That doesnt happen for everyone.
I think counseling is a wonderful way to help with depression. It helped me. Finding a therapist can be a bit tricky because you need to feel comfortable, but once I did, I spent an hour each week crying to a complete stranger. It felt good. Exercise and hobbies are also a great way to get past the hard times to a place that is easier to deal with. Sadness comes and goes, for the most part. Our job is to find out what is making us miserable and fix it or to mourn the loss of someone or something that is bringing us grief. Its just another part of life and growing as a person. If you think you are alone, your not. Everyone has hard times. Just find your inner strength and persevere. It can be done. Always remember, this too shall pass. And if it doesnt, seek professional help. We only have one shot at life, spending it in misery should never be an option.
I think counseling is a wonderful way to help with depression. It helped me. Finding a therapist can be a bit tricky because you need to feel comfortable, but once I did, I spent an hour each week crying to a complete stranger. It felt good. Exercise and hobbies are also a great way to get past the hard times to a place that is easier to deal with. Sadness comes and goes, for the most part. Our job is to find out what is making us miserable and fix it or to mourn the loss of someone or something that is bringing us grief. Its just another part of life and growing as a person. If you think you are alone, your not. Everyone has hard times. Just find your inner strength and persevere. It can be done. Always remember, this too shall pass. And if it doesnt, seek professional help. We only have one shot at life, spending it in misery should never be an option.
October 27, 2008
So I went to see Saw V......
For date night last weekend, we decided on dinner and a movie. DBF Michael loves the Saw series so we went to see Saw V. I'm a scary movie buff. I have always loved movies that get my adrenaline going. However, I thought Saw was more gore than scare. They go back and forth throughout the movie answering questions that you often wondered. It show's a couple flashback of how Jigsaw set up the rooms that he put the victims in. It also explained his thought process for the things that he did. I liked the fact that they gave back story and it wasn't just blood and guts. Oh, they still had that. You know how the previous movies went, right? Strangers put in a room and they have to do awful things to themselves or each other to survive. This time though, It didn't make me sick to my stomach. There seemed to be more of a story to follow rather than wondering who was going to get killed next. If you love Saw and you don't mind the gore, I suggest seeing the movie. You wont be disappointed. I'm not sure if Id give it 2 thumbs up but definitely one and a half.
October 25, 2008
October 23, 2008
Liars...how do they live with themselves?
If there is one thing that I cant stand, its a liar. Politicians lie to get your vote, companies lie about credit loans (or forget to tell you about hidden charges) to get your business, children lie to get their way or so they dont get in trouble, and lets not forget the person you love and trust the most, your partner. The reasons vary. They don't like confrontation, they don't want to get in trouble, they are selfish pigs and dont think about the repercussions of their actions. Why? And is it worth it? Do they think so little of the person they love that they're willing to risk it all? To me, it takes a real man or woman to stand up and tell the truth. Especially in circumstances where they know it may end their relationship, but do it anyway. We live in a world of selfish people. They do what they want to do no matter how much it may hurt the other person. However, if they don't get caught....then it makes it even easier the next time.
Ive always valued honesty. Some people say I'm brutally honest. If you ask me a question, I will answer it. Beware, it may not be what you want to hear. I wasn't always that way. As a teen, I did my fair share of telling "little white lies" to get what I wanted or to get out of trouble, but I grew out of that. My logic, it takes more energy to pull a lie off than it is to keep it going. My son was a master of this game. He could look at me straight in the eyes and lie thru his teeth without even a flutter. How do you get to that point? If you catch someone in a lie, how do you trust them again? "Honey, I'm sorry I cheated...it wont happen again?" REEEEEALLY?? And how do you know it wont happen again or if this is even the first time? I broke off an engagement because of lies. I refuse to go thru life questioning everything someone tells me. With the elections coming near, it triggered my feelings of dishonesty. I'm tired of hearing empty promises. Then, I thought about my past and what Ive gone thru. Yep, there is definitely an open wound here. The bottom line, if you are so self centered that all you think about is yourself and will lie to save your ass, don't let the door hit you in that same location as you're walking out of it. Comments?
Ive always valued honesty. Some people say I'm brutally honest. If you ask me a question, I will answer it. Beware, it may not be what you want to hear. I wasn't always that way. As a teen, I did my fair share of telling "little white lies" to get what I wanted or to get out of trouble, but I grew out of that. My logic, it takes more energy to pull a lie off than it is to keep it going. My son was a master of this game. He could look at me straight in the eyes and lie thru his teeth without even a flutter. How do you get to that point? If you catch someone in a lie, how do you trust them again? "Honey, I'm sorry I cheated...it wont happen again?" REEEEEALLY?? And how do you know it wont happen again or if this is even the first time? I broke off an engagement because of lies. I refuse to go thru life questioning everything someone tells me. With the elections coming near, it triggered my feelings of dishonesty. I'm tired of hearing empty promises. Then, I thought about my past and what Ive gone thru. Yep, there is definitely an open wound here. The bottom line, if you are so self centered that all you think about is yourself and will lie to save your ass, don't let the door hit you in that same location as you're walking out of it. Comments?
October 22, 2008
TT #81
13 of my favorite candy I wont be eating for Halloween because of Nutrisystems
1. M&M’s both plain and peanut
2. Baby Ruth
3. Tootsie rolls
4. Butterfingers
5. Milky Ways
6. Reese’s Peanut Butter Cups
7. Big Hunks
8. Nestle Crunch Bars
9. Twix bars
10. 3 Musketeers
11. Mr. Goodbar
12. Junior Mints
13. 100 grand bars
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