December 31, 2008

13 things to remember if you're going through a break up during the holidays.


1. This too shall pass.

2. You are not the only one. It happens every day.

3. You will love again. I promise.

4. Make the best of a bad situation. Listen to your favorite holiday music (only happy songs), bake some brownies, or watch your favorite movie.

5. Smiling makes you feel better.

6. There are people who love you.

7. Its almost over. Stay strong.

8. If you dont want to decorate, you dont have to.

9. Look at childhood photo albums. It will bring back wonderful memories.

10. Hug your kids. Their love is unconditional.

11. Think about the lesson you learned from this and dont make the same mistake twice.

12. Online dating profiles are just a click away.

13. Phone a friend. Go out and find some Holiday cheer.

December 29, 2008

Thank You Carina....


Carina sent me this award and it made my day!

December 26, 2008

Its time for guilty pleasure of the week....


My guilty pleasure this week is classic rock. I grew up in the 70's and 80's. I think the music we had back then was the best. I listen to everything from the Eagles, to the Beatles, Van Halen, Chicago, Queen, and I think I have every 70's mix CD they have on the market. If you would have told me back then that what I listened to would be considered classic some day, I would have laughed. Guess what? The same thing is going to happen to the youths today. Can you imagine Slipknot, Pantara, or Marilyn Manson on an oldies channel? Ya, that's pretty funny. I cant even imagine.

Time goes by so quickly but I find that when I'm listening to my classic rock, it takes me back. Don't you have those songs from your past that bring back all sorts of memories? Your first kiss? Losing your virginity? Hanging out with friends? MTV when they had no commercials? Those were the good ole' days. I don't think I could ever get sick of listening to Elton John. Does this make me old? Nah...does it mean I'm stuck in time?? just means that I love to listen to music that makes me feel good. I cant go a day at work without listening to my tunes. Ive tried to mix it up a bit but I always come back to the classics. Those were good times!

December 23, 2008

December 22, 2008


You hear about it everyday. People, mostly girls, being persuaded by men to do or say things they wouldn't normally do because of a persistent admirer. If you are not sure that the person you have been talking to would be considered a stalker, here is a general explanation. Stalking is defined as repeated and persistent unwanted communications and/or approaches that produce fear in the victim. Lately the news has been littered with cases of Internet stalkers who hunt down, assault, and even kill their victims. I use to use instant messenger all the time. I thought it was fun and a great way to meet people. Then I realized, most of the guys that would "IM" me, were only interested in one thing....SEX. The ones that freaked me out, I ignored and they would generally go away. Some were a little more persistent than others. Since the beginning of computers and the Internet, stalkers have come a long way. Did you know that a person can look up your personal information? If they have your phone number, they can even find out your address. Scary? You betcha. You cant look up a cell phone number quite as easy as a land line but it can be done. Here are a few things to help:

1. When faced with this issue, it is best to ignore and move on. Do not show any interest with this person for he or she will feed on your reactions.

2. Do not react on what this person does to you. Don't speak or show any sign that he or she is really getting to you, because this will keep them going.

3. Most of the time you dont know the person that you are talking to. You need to stay on your toes because it is very easy to trick anyone online. Don't put any of your life history and personal information including your full real name online. I know you would think this is a given but people do it all the time.

There are quite a few places a stalker can find you. Myspace is a perfect example. They did an investigation and found thousands of pedophiles on this site. Young girls are the easiest target but so are desperate people. If you are freshly out of a relationship, you could be the perfect target. Watch yourself. If the person does not stop after being asked, you might want to consider legal action. It's happened to me. Not the legal action part but being cyberstalked. I no longer use my Instant Messenger and I feel much safer.

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December 19, 2008

You've heard of empty nest syndrome...but what if they wont leave?

With my youngest sons graduation getting closer, I have to shake my head and wonder. I'm not sure if he has a plan to leave this nest any time soon. Why would he? The meals are free, his clothes are washed, there is food in the fridge, and a warm shower whenever he needs it. I know people always get misty when they talk about their empty nest, me on the other hand, cant wait for both of my little birdies to finally fly the coop. It was a big adjustment after my oldest son left 2 years ago, but after time, I got use to it. My food bill went down, I only had 1/3 of the laundry to do, no more waiting up all night for him to come home, and the world revolved around someone besides him. Now, I'm really looking forward to round two. I have been raising kids for over 20 years. I seen my 20's and 30's come and go without a thought for myself. I'm 42 now and as June gets closer, I find myself picking out luggage for his graduation present. Don't get me wrong, I adore my son. We are just two different people. I want him to succeed in life and do what he has to to make himself happy. I just want him to do it on his dime.

We have planned a trip for him to stay with his Dad in Tennessee after graduation. They never had the chance to develop a relationship and I think it will do them both good. I know my son though. I'm not sure if he can stay any place too far from his Mom. I hope when he gets out there, it will push him to excel and do something for himself. He's such a good kid and has never given me any grief besides his grades and the laziness he inherited from God knows who. He will make a wonderful husband to a woman that can cook, clean, and tolerate video games. Funny thing about that kid, he is smarter than me. He can do anything he wants....but I prefer him to do it in his own place. Does that make me a bad Mom?


December 18, 2008

John Saul


My guilty pleasure for the week is my love for John Saul. Have any of you read his books? I just finished The God Project. A story of things happening to the children in Eastbury Massachusetts. Something that causes healthy babies to turn cold in their cribs. An entire town waits on the edge of panic for the next nightmare. You're never sure who is the bad guy and who is the good guy. This was a great story that kept me guessing all the way to the end, and then what a twist! It is one of many books I have read that he has written.

The book that got me hooked was The Manhattan Hunt Club. It is a story of a falsely convicted college student who's future vanishes before his eyes. Soon, he finds himself beneath the teeming streets of Manhattan, in a hidden landscape of twisting tunnels and forgotten subterranean chambers. There, an invisible popluation of homeless and desperate people have carved out their own shadow society. Someone planned for him to be there, but why?? You will have to read the book and find out. We also just discovered that the story was based on actual tunnels under the city. They are going to do a special on them this month. That makes it even more intense.

His expertise is drama with a touch of horror. I have yet to see a romantic moment in any of his books. He goes where alot of authors wont. I gave away all of my Danielle Steel novels and replaced them with John Saul. If you ask me, he's one of the best writers out there. Love him!!

December 17, 2008

Are single parents targets?

When employers are seeking to hire a new employee, do they look at their qualities or are they searching for someone to push around? As a single parent, you have to put up with alot more than someone who only has one mouth to feed. Most single people, (maybe not so much in today's economy) can walk away from a job and not worry too much if they go without a paycheck for a week or even take a job for lower pay. They enter the work force on a different level than someone who is worried about providing for their children. I know when I was younger, I could quit a job at the drop of a hat if I didn't like my boss. It was the same way when I was married. I had a safety net. If I wasnt happy, I could leave and simply find another job at my leisure. That isn't the case these days. I think they know we NEED to work and are more than willing to put up with some of the crap that is tossed our way. Working for a person that has no regards for you and a heavy chip on their shoulder can make for a pretty tough work week.

Why are we always fighting for something or with someone? Our ex husbands, the child support agencies, the crooks that steal our money (Supportkids), and bosses or coworkers that could care less about how difficult they make our lives. Isn't it tough enough to be a single parent without these added stresses? I feel, at times, that society has closed the door on us and our needs. We live in a world dictated by people that have the ability to hire and fire us at the drop of a hat. Remember when they actually needed a reason to fire you? First the verbal warning, then the written, then possible disciplinary action or termination. When did companies get the right to change the laws? I don't think any company should be able to fire someone because they feel like it. Today, however, you sign a contract when you are hired stating that you are an "At Will" employee. No, I haven't lost my job but other people have. This is simply a post, as all of my posts are, of something I feel strongly about. Maybe I'm just preaching from my soap box but those of you that have never had to experience this type of behavior, couldn't possibly understand it. And, if you are the boss of a single parent, don't treat us any different. With everything we have on our plate, how could you possible get gratification by kicking someone when they are down? We are hard workers. Give us a break. That isnt a ticket to be a jerk, and if you think it is, maybe you're in the wrong position at your job. Bosses need to be fair, no matter what your line of work is. We should all be treated as equals and with respect. Being a single parents shouldnt be a factor, our job performance should speak for itself. Am I right?

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December 15, 2008

Blondes have more fun.....

Is that statement fact or fiction? I know there is a stereotype surrounding blonde's but that is typical of any shade of hair. I know that red heads are supposed to be fiery but I don’t remember what they say about brunettes. Are we the smart ones? I believe men will look at a beautiful woman no matter what color hair she has. I was born a brunette but have lightened my hair for a long time. I like my hair both ways (dark and light) but think I look better as a Champagne blonde. Of course, if you ask my mother she would never agree with me on that. I have noticed though, when my hair is darker, I look younger. I wonder why that is?

I don't think changing your hair color means changing who you are, its simply enhancing it. And if you like what you see in the mirror, why does it matter what other people think? Back in the day, everyone wanted to look like Farrah Fawcett, so we all went blonde. Remember "Sun In"? That stuff you put in your hair and then laid in the sun? How many ended up with orange hair? What about the blonde jokes? I think I have heard a million of them. So I ask, why would anyone change their hair color to be compared with someone stupid? And why, if you're blonde, would you automatically be put into a retard category? My bf is blonde and he is exceptionally smart. Maybe the blonde jokes are aimed at female's only. Isn't that a bit prejudice? I would like to know if hair color has changed anyones life drastically? And if so, did you go dark to light or light to dark? Honestly, I think its who you are and not your hair color. However, I could be wrong......

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Survivor Gabon

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My guilty pleasure for the week is that I am a Survivor fan and have been since the first season in 2000. I haven't missed one episode. Not one. I guess you can say I'm one of their biggest fans. However, that doesn't mean Id like to go on the show. I'm alot more comfortable watching it from my sofa. DBF Michael is always trying to getting me to audition. I told him it would be a waste of time. I would be voted off on the first round. Why?? Not only do I need to eat, I definitely need to sleep. By day 3, they would be lined up to put my name on the ballet.

That being said, I have an opinion about that witch Corinne from this seasons show. I have never seen someone with so little class on the history of Survivor. What she said to Sugar was inexcusable. Anyone that would go on national TV and disrespect someone's dead father should be banned from any affiliation with the show. She claimed to be smarter than most, yet she didn't make it to the final three. Obviously, she isn't as smart as she thinks she is. If so, should would have won. And Randy, no wonder he is alone. How sad it must be to have such a mean demeanor. If the only person that wants to get close to you has four paws and a tail, maybe you should work on your people skills. I couldn't imagine spending any time with someone like that, let alone 39 days. I'm glad Bob won, but I honestly wish it would have been Sugar. So what if she cried and showed some emotion. She was real and played one heck of a game. I hope this show brings her some sort of success.

As for me, I will continue to watch Survivor until the end. Next stop....BRAZIL!! Come on 2009.

December 14, 2008

The Day the Earth Stood Still

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OMG, what an awful movie. I went in to the theater with such high hopes because of Keanu Reeves. Even he couldn't help this flick. We paid $30.00 dollars to see it in IMAX because we thought the special effects were going to be off the charts. No such luck. If you want to see all of the exciting scenes, just watch the trailer. It has the only two special effects scenes in the whole movie. I kept waiting for it to get better but it didn't. I never seen the original movie but I'm guessing it was 100 times better than this if they tried to do a remake. Will Smith's little boy is coming along with his acting skills and I see this as a rehearsal for something much better for him. You will spend your time waiting for something to happen but it never does.

If you are thinking about spending money to actually see this, don't waste your cash. I wouldn't even recommend the video. Its that bad. I give this two VERY BIG thumbs down.

December 13, 2008

Inner Strength

The holidays are quickly approaching and Christmas might be one of the toughest to endure. It's filled with holiday cheer and wonderful memories for most. If this is your first Christmas alone, you need to find your inner strength. Don't let the demons win over your happiness. We all have the strength to over come anything. Even if you don't believe in yourself, other people believe in you. I was blog hopping the other day and came across a post that really made be stop, reread, and feel so bad for the girl that wrote it. It wasn't a normal post, but rather, something written in her profile. She sounded so sad. She stated that she was blindsided by a boyfriend of three years and is having a really hard time this season. Rather than planning her wedding, she is taking life one day at a time. The reason for the blog was to help her heal. First of all I want to commend her for finding an outlet. I have found blogging to be very therapeutic too. Second, she needs to know that this too shall pass.

When you put yourself out there and fall in love, there are never any guarantee's. You also cant choose the person you love. Its just something that happens. If the relationship ended, try to look at it from the outside in. See if there was a lesson to be learned and remember the good times. I believe that everything happens for reason. People come in and out of our life every day. Don't let another person dictate your existence. Remember who you were before they were there. I know that's not always easy. Its kind of like trying to stop a cut from bleeding with a bandaid. It doesn't stop the blood, it works more as a support to help the wound heal. Look for your own support system. I'm not saying something to numb the pain but let yourself hurt and mourn the loss. Then move on. You must not let the pain control your life or happiness. We are all special in our own way. Trust me, there will be someone else and you will love again. Get through the holidays the best that you can and enjoy spending time with your family. After all, they were the ones that loved you first. Remember that.

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December 12, 2008

Happy Birthday Honey!!!

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Today is DBF Michaels 39th birthday (again)..I want to be the first to wish him a very Happy Birthday. I hope you like your cake!!

I love you

December 11, 2008

Making love VS. Sex

I'm not sure if a man would know the difference between making love and sex, but a women certainly would. Sex is the act, making love is everything that comes before, during, and after. I think that foreplay before the bedroom actually enhances the love making experience. Women love to be romanced. Phone sex is a great way to get the ball rolling, or love notes, small gestures (rubbing your feet after a long day), kissing, playing (play fighting or teasing but be nice). These are all very important and can help get a woman in the mood. I have had the experience of dating someone who's idea of foreplay was telling me "I want some." Yep, that got me wet every time. NOT!

Love making means more between two people that actually love each other. I love a manly man but only in certain aspects. When it comes to being intimate, a man needs to make his woman feel beautiful and wanted. Sex should not be expected just because, you need to work up to it. That's why alot of women see it as a chore who have been married for a while. The man has forgotten the romance. We would be much quicker to jump in the sack if the feeling was mutual. Unfortunately, it takes us a little longer to get motivated. With all of the things we are responsible for day after day, you don't have much energy come night fall. If a man helped with the chores and kids, that would leave us with alot more charisma. I don't know about you but a man that does house work gets me hot just watching him. If he thinks enough about me to cook, do the dishes, make the bed, vacuum...then I'm more apt to show him just how much I appreciate him in the bedroom. Anyone can have sex, and sometimes its all you both need. Making love, on the other hand, is a deep connection. Have you ever had sex with a one night stand and walked away feeling good?OK...maybe, but the satisfaction you feel after a night of love making is like no other. Am I right on this one?

December 10, 2008

TT #85

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13 signs your relationship is in trouble

1. You no longer have anything in common - conversation is a thing of the past.

2. You can do no right - They find fault in everything you do.

3. You are the last to know - When you become the last to know important information there has been a huge breakdown in communication. You should be the first.

4. A change in appearance - He/She use to dress up for you and look their best. Now, they no longer care.

5. Looking for distractions from problems - Has your TV replaced communication? It is common for people to find such distractions to avoid dealing with a troubled marriage and/or relationship.

6. Arguing over the same subject repeatedly - If your arguments become routine with all the same issues and no resolution, then your marriage and/or relationship is either standing still or dying fast.

7. Sex and intimacy is a thing of the past - to explanation needed for this one.

8. Trust issues - Trust is the absolute most essential part of a successful relationship, and without trust everything else will eventually collapse.

9. Do you want different things? - Are you no longer working towards the same goal?

10. Boredom - Nothing kills a marriage like a lack of passion and excitement.

11. Is he/she cheating? - Did you catch them in the act or suspect they're having an affair?

12. Are there more Con's than Pro's? - Are you miserable more than happy?

13. Do you love them but no longer like them? - Yes, you can love someone but dislike the person they are.

December 8, 2008

It’s all in the Bra…..

I know many woman are fashion savvy. We shop until we drop and rarely go home empty handed. Looking our best is something we pride ourselves on, especially on the outside. What about what’s underneath? I did some shopping recently and came home with a few things that accentuate the curves that I have. Since I am a single mother, most of my clothes were purchased at Wal-Mart when my kids were growing up. Shoes were always bought at Payless. Now that my kids are older, its time to spend a little extra on Mom. I went into one of the stores at the mall and something caught my eye. It was the most beautiful bra I had ever seen. Black with little sparkly things all over it. I tried it on. Wow!! Did it make my boobs look great? Not only that, but huge.

I’m not small chested. I’ve been a C forever. This bra turned my average C in to a knock out D. Yes, there is padding, but the way that it pushes up gives me cleavage I never knew I had. My man absolutely loves the new look. I find myself wearing shirts that show off my cleavage. Not to mention, the added attention. That wasn’t my intention but it’s funny, if you wear a shirt showing a little chest, the men look. I did a blog earlier about boob jobs. If you buy a bra like this, you won’t need one. Men act totally different around women that show a little boob. I always speculated but never experienced it. My man called me a MLF. That’s funny. For those of you who don’t know what it stands for….its “Mother Id Like to F@$&.” That made me feel beautiful. I know a lot of you are no strangers to sexy Lingerie, but this is all new to me. The price I paid was more than I use to spend on bras in a year. I think it’s worth it though, so much so, that I bought 2 more! Do you girls know the bra’s I’m talking about?

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December 6, 2008

Nutrisystems update

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As many of you know, Ive been on Nutrisystems for a little over 2 months. I started it because my employers at divorce360 wanted to pay for 3 of us to do Nutrisystems, it return, we had to blog about it daily. It wasn't a competition but rather, an honest look at the diet itself. They paid for 30 days. After that, we were on our own. The other 2 people dropped it but I decided to stay. Now, I'm down 21 pounds going into week 9. Some people have criticised the food but its not all bad. You have to remember, this isn't food you would eat at a fine dinning restaurant. Its a diet. With my last shipment of food, they sent me a 10 pound weight loss bear. Since then, Ive lost another 11 pounds. How did they know I lost the weight you ask? Their site has a place for your progress. You weigh in daily, or when you get the chance, and in return it gives you a graph of your starting weight, your current weight, and your goal along with your BMI. I like to watch the graft do down as I get closer to my goal. It gives me satisfaction and incentive.

I have my favorites and with Nutrisystems, you can choose your own menu. There are things I wouldn't order again, but that's with any restaurant menu. It costs me 234.00 a month, which is a bit steep but I am getting results. Not to mention, my complexion has completely cleared. I had no idea I would get an added bonus as well. Ive decided the hamburgers are my favorite, this week anyway. Its funny though, they are freeze dried. You have to add boiling water, let it set for 2 minutes, and it turns into a hamburger. Very strange. Also with the plan, you get to eat lots of salad, fruits, vegetables, and yogurt. I'm on the flex plan, which means, I eat their food 5 days a week and normal food 2 days a week. I do my flex days on the weekend. I was afraid at first that eating normal food would hurt my chances of losing more. That hasn't been the case. They give you guidelines to follow and you really need to watch your portions. I have found that making wise decisions isn't as hard as you would think. I feel great and everyone tells me I look great. What more could I ask for?? Another 40 pounds would be good. If you are thinking about doing this program, you have to give 100 percent. You cant eat their food and cheat when you feel like it because then you will get no results. I have been losing 2 1/2 pounds a week and that's a healthy amount to lose. I cant tell you how much better I feel in general and about myself. It really does work!

December 5, 2008

The San Diego Chargers win!!

Upclose and Personal!

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The San Diego Chargers VS. The Oakland Raiders. I have never attended a professional football game. It was alot different than I expected.

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I was excited about the game buzz until we got in the parking lot and realized there was no structure whatsoever to the way people were lining up to get in. It was every man for himself.

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Then I looked around at all of the tailgate parties. It was like nothing I have ever seen before. Chargers and Raiders fans side by side grilling hamburgers, drinking beer, and having a great time.

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The stadium was huge. Its funny, I was so worried about dressing in a Chargers shirt because I THOUGHT I was sitting on the Raiders side. appears the WHOLE stadium is the Chargers side. The Raider fans were a bit outnumberd.

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DBF Michael was very excited for the game to start. He had high hopes for his Raiders!

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You hear all of the trash talk about the Raider fans, but the Charger fans were just as bad. After alot of beer drinking, people started to get a bit carried away. Nothing major but you could definitely feel the tension between the fans.

In the end, the Chargers ended up beating the Raiders 34 to 7. I found myself rooting for both teams. DBF Michael was not happy with the score but I think we both had a nice time.

I would definitely do it again!

December 3, 2008

Ive been tagged!

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Jes tagged me. She wanted me to stop what I was doing and take a pic of myself.
So I did. Here I am in all my glory after a long day at work and a couple of hours on the computer. Scary, huh??? lol

Here were the instructions:

1. Take a picture of yourself right Now! (the moment you read this tag)

2. Don't change your clothes, don't fix your hair, just take a picture.

3. Post that picture without editing.

4. Post these instructions with your picture.

5. Tag 10 people to do this. And don't forget to leave them a message about the tag.

TT #84

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13 Instructions for life.....

1. Take into account that great love and great achievement involve great risk (no pain, no gain).

2. When you lose, dont lose the lesson. Learn from your mistakes.

3. Remember that not getting what you want can sometimes be an open door for something better.

4. Dont let an argument injure a great relationship.

5. When you find out you've made a mistake, correct it.

6. Spend some time alone every day.

7. Open your mind to change but dont let go of your values.

8. Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer (I need to practice this one).

9. A loving atmosphere in your home is the foundation for your life. Trust is the key.

10. In disagreements with loved ones, deal only with the current issue. Dont bring up the past (yep, I need to practice this one too).

11. If you're mad, count to 10 before you open your mouth. It can make all the difference in the world.

12. Do onto others as you would have them do onto you.

13. Go someplace new every year that you have never been before.

December 2, 2008

Wordless "Im so Proud" Wednesday

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Thats my son receiving an award in Iraq.

December 1, 2008

Ways to spot a liar

They avoid direct answers - Liars sometimes imply answers instead of denying something directly. This allows them to avoid lying by not making admissive statements.

Are they defensive? Guilty people usually get defensive at the first indication of an accusation whereas honest people will get offensive.

Watch their eye movement - The eyes of dishonest people will tend to move around a lot to avoid meeting your gaze. However, staring at your eyes for prolonged periods is also an indicator of a lie.

How is their stance? - Liars often feel uncomfortable standing directly in front of an accuser and may avoid standing with their shoulders squared to yours. Instead, they might stand slightly to the side or with their shoulders offset.

Look at their expressions - Expressions are limited to the mouth, e.g. if a liar fakes a smile, he will only use selected muscles whereas a natural smile utilizes muscles over the whole face.

Are they playing with something? Liars will play with objects in their possession such as a handbag, bracelet, mobile phone or hair. They may also put an obstruction between themselves and the other person, often something as simple as a coffee cup. This is a subconscious way of attempting to ‘barricade' themselves to relieve the tension of lying.

Watch that tone - A liar's tone of voice is often not consistent with his/her gestures or statements.

What are they saying? Dishonest people will often use sarcasm when answering accusations.

Did they answer your question? - A liar uses your words to answer questions, e.g. Q: "Did you have sexual relations with this woman?" A: "I did not have sexual relations with that woman."

Check out the details - Dishonest people will add unnecessary detail to the conversation; this is an attempt to comfort the other person.

Did it make sense? Often liars' words won't make sense and their grammar may be incorrect. This is because a liar's mind is racing in search of a convincing answer and the signals to the mouth are sent incorrectly.

Choosing Hospice

As many of you know, I work for a hospice company. When I took this job, I received alot of negative feed back. Not because of hospice itself but because most people think its a very depressing job. For those of you that don't know or understand what it is, I will explain it to you. Hospice is a program that provides palliative care and attends to the emotional and spiritual needs of terminally ill patients at an inpatient facility or at the patient's home. The patients general have 6 months or less to live. When you decide that hospice is what you or your loved one needs, you also have to agree to no further aggressive treatment. Which means, if you have cancer you agree to no chemotherapy. We focus on comfort measures during the last stage of a persons disease. Our company also has social workers that help the families apply for food programs, get vouchers from utility companies, and help families plan funerals. It takes a special kind of person to do this.

Many people feel that by choosing hospice, they have given up. That isn't necessarily the case. We have had people discharge off of hospice and decide that further aggressive treatment would be a better option. However, in order to qualify for our programs, a physician makes the determination that the person is terminally ill and would not benefit from aggressive treatment. Physicians aren't God though. All they can do is speculate, miracles happen every day. Our staff is on call 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Considering I spent 15 years working for hospitals and medical groups trying to cure the sick, this was a completely different avenue to take. It has completely changed my aspect of the service in general. I started this job the same week my father died. How is that for timing? They were the most understanding people I could have hoped for. Not only was I paid for bereavement, but I got comfort from all the staff, including the Chaplin. I want people to know that hospice isn't a bad thing. They provide pain relief and try to make your last days on earth as comfortable as possible. It isn't for everyone but don't count it out completely because of the title. Hospice companies are available all over the world. If you have questions, don't be afraid to ask. They understand your concerns and are there to help.

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