December 10, 2008

TT #85


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13 signs your relationship is in trouble

1. You no longer have anything in common - conversation is a thing of the past.

2. You can do no right - They find fault in everything you do.

3. You are the last to know - When you become the last to know important information there has been a huge breakdown in communication. You should be the first.

4. A change in appearance - He/She use to dress up for you and look their best. Now, they no longer care.

5. Looking for distractions from problems - Has your TV replaced communication? It is common for people to find such distractions to avoid dealing with a troubled marriage and/or relationship.

6. Arguing over the same subject repeatedly - If your arguments become routine with all the same issues and no resolution, then your marriage and/or relationship is either standing still or dying fast.

7. Sex and intimacy is a thing of the past - to explanation needed for this one.

8. Trust issues - Trust is the absolute most essential part of a successful relationship, and without trust everything else will eventually collapse.

9. Do you want different things? - Are you no longer working towards the same goal?

10. Boredom - Nothing kills a marriage like a lack of passion and excitement.

11. Is he/she cheating? - Did you catch them in the act or suspect they're having an affair?

12. Are there more Con's than Pro's? - Are you miserable more than happy?

13. Do you love them but no longer like them? - Yes, you can love someone but dislike the person they are.

36 comments:

Adelle said...

Having just been through a painful break up. I'd say communication is number one.
Happy Holidays!

sobeit said...

Great tips! Happy TT!

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SandyCarlson said...

Been down that road!

Carol said...

Yeah, that's sort of a stage that crops up from time to time in my marriage. A stage. It passes. But I have to be intentional about making sure I don't perpetuate it in my crazy head.

~Just Me Miranda~ said...

Thats a good list. Good for all couples to know.

bernieg1 said...

Great tips for those that worry about such things. If people focused more on honesty and integrity in their relationships and selflessness, which most people never do - less cheating and divorces would occur. Good TT!



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After Hours said...
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jeannie said...

These are tips I need to pass to my mom...

Happy T13
Thanks for stopping by

After Hours said...

Sounds like good advice and you sound like a strong person.. I can't imagine divorce but at least now I see the warning signs.

Happy Holidays:)

Lori said...

Everything is wonderful in my world Afterhours...its just advise from someone who's been there. I am very much in love:) Thanks for caring....

yoonamaniac said...

It's been some time I've been in a relationship. But good tips!

Nicholas said...

Oh, I can remember what #2 is like!
Been there, seen it, done it, got the decree.

Betty said...

I agree with Adelle, communication is the most important thing in a relationship. Happy TT!

jehara said...

this is a good list. this describes some of my previous relationships ha ha! thanks for stopping by. happy tt. :)

Journeywoman said...

Good list.

Denise Patrick said...

Communication is definitely the most important part of a relationship.

A great list - I hope it helps someone.

Happy TT!

sandier pastures said...

Great signs and all so true. In all relationships, communication is the key. Happy TT!

Sue said...

Great tips! It's too bad people have to cheat. Also knowing when to give up a bad relationship is key.

Happy WW!

Brenda ND said...

Sad, but true. It's good for couples to be aware of these signs.
My blog is on communication too.

anthonynorth said...

Some important home truths there, I think.

Debbie said...

Very accurate list.

MInTheGap said...

Wow-- some excellent questions. Relationships are hard work, despite what they show in the movies. They take time, and you have to be willing to fight for them, and prioritize them.

Thanks for the list, Happy T13!

On a limb with Clauida said...

Gosh, I hope this doesn't relate to you and your honey. You've seemed so happy.

AND, I find these symptoms true in any relationship - with anything. Even TTs! ;)

bundleocontradictions said...

I think it's possible to experience almost all of those things (not the cheating!!) without losing a relationship. Having been married for nearly 13 years, I & probably my husband have experienced many of those issues, but we're still together & sometimes they're just phases that pass. If you are committed to the relationship, you can change nearly all of those issues. It's a neverending process.

Marina said...

Painfully true, yes...

Tink said...

I'm happy to say none of these apply to my marriage. Yay!
Thanks for visiting my TT.

jeanjeanie said...

Excellent advice. These are all points we try to keep in mind in our own marriage.

nicoleaustin said...

Even one of those and you can call it done!

Toni said...

Scary but good list! Thanks for stopping by and commenting at my place!

The Gal Herself said...

Ah, the memories your list brought back! How about no longer caring if he's cheating or not? That's when I knew it was completely, 100% over.


(Thanks for visiting my TT)

NotJustAMom said...

Good list. Happy TT!

Phil's Grill said...

Your list is so accurate. A relationship is as strong as the commitment between the two people. Relationships don't just happen; they take work, patience, forgiveness, humor, anger and the ability to ask for what you want.
Thanks for stopping by my blog.

The Bumbles said...

Well that's uplifting! Working toward a common goal is key. Glad to know hubby and I don't deal with these issues - very lucky.

Clarence said...

It's a TT that makes you think. Nice list.

tommie said...

Great list....btdt with this list!

Thanks for visiting my T13!

Ann Bruce said...

Been there, done that. Didn't keep the T-shirt.