December 19, 2008

You've heard of empty nest syndrome...but what if they wont leave?

With my youngest sons graduation getting closer, I have to shake my head and wonder. I'm not sure if he has a plan to leave this nest any time soon. Why would he? The meals are free, his clothes are washed, there is food in the fridge, and a warm shower whenever he needs it. I know people always get misty when they talk about their empty nest, me on the other hand, cant wait for both of my little birdies to finally fly the coop. It was a big adjustment after my oldest son left 2 years ago, but after time, I got use to it. My food bill went down, I only had 1/3 of the laundry to do, no more waiting up all night for him to come home, and the world revolved around someone besides him. Now, I'm really looking forward to round two. I have been raising kids for over 20 years. I seen my 20's and 30's come and go without a thought for myself. I'm 42 now and as June gets closer, I find myself picking out luggage for his graduation present. Don't get me wrong, I adore my son. We are just two different people. I want him to succeed in life and do what he has to to make himself happy. I just want him to do it on his dime.

We have planned a trip for him to stay with his Dad in Tennessee after graduation. They never had the chance to develop a relationship and I think it will do them both good. I know my son though. I'm not sure if he can stay any place too far from his Mom. I hope when he gets out there, it will push him to excel and do something for himself. He's such a good kid and has never given me any grief besides his grades and the laziness he inherited from God knows who. He will make a wonderful husband to a woman that can cook, clean, and tolerate video games. Funny thing about that kid, he is smarter than me. He can do anything he wants....but I prefer him to do it in his own place. Does that make me a bad Mom?

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4 comments:

The Bumbles said...

Funny - I'm approaching 40 and I am still thinking about having kids!

Chuckie said...

You're such a beautiful person and I'm always so happy to see your comments. I pulled up your myspace page and am happy to see you're in a relationship. I hope that's going well. Bless you my sweet friend and Merry Christmas....BTW: I'm ok. I don't deal with stress very well and have had to get on meds to get me thru the new job, but it's bringing me a paycheck and yesterday I was able to give to someone in need (total stranger). It made my whole Christmas. God bless!

beth said...

Sounds like you've been an excellent Mom all these years and now its just the natural transition for the kids to leave the nest and for the Mom to enjoy the change! Have fun...

Lori said...

Awwwwwww Chuckie...you're so sweet. I feel your pain about the stress thing. I hope it gets better for both you and I in the work force. Its too bad the economy sucks right now. Employers definitely have the upper hand. Love ya man!!!