October 31, 2007
October 30, 2007
October 28, 2007
Swollen, painless lymph nodes in the neck, armpits, or groin
Unexplained weight loss
Soaking night sweats
Coughing, trouble breathing, or chest pain
Weakness and tiredness that don't go away
Pain, swelling, or a feeling of fullness in the abdomen
Most often, these symptoms are not due to cancer. Infections or other health problems may also cause these symptoms. Anyone with symptoms that do not go away within 2 weeks should see a doctor so that problems can be diagnosed and treated. My mothers CA125 blood test came back really high, which is the a test for ovarian cancer. That's what we thought she had, however, the CT scan showed us exactly what it was. I have no idea why the test for ovarian cancer was elevated except for the fact that her system was completely off because of the NHL. Unfortunately, a CT is the only way to accurately diagnose this type of cancer. Without symptoms, there is no need for a person to get a CT scan. She was experiencing alot of bloating and fatigue. My mother is always doing something but the fact that she felt like doing absolutely nothing because she was so exhausted was one of the main reason she sought help. By the time they diagnosed it, she was a stage 4. I am happy to say that she completed her last chemo treatment on Friday and the doctor said she is in complete remission. She is only 59 years old. Far too young for someone to lose their life. I just want people to be aware of their bodies. If something doesn't feel right, go and see a doctor. I know it may not be the most pleasant thing a person can do but it just might save your life. Here are a couple resources for information regarding NHL:
Telephone (1-800-4-CANCER): Information Specialists at NCI's (National Cancer Institute) Cancer Information Service can answer your questions about cancer. They also can send NCI booklets, fact sheets, and other materials.
http://www.cancer.gov/: You can use NCI's Web site to find a wide range of up-to-date information. People in the United States and its territories may use this Web site to order printed copies. This Web site also explains how people outside the United States can mail or fax their requests for NCI booklets.
The American Cancer Society
I hope this information helps anyone that is going thru a crisis or has a loved one with NHL.
October 27, 2007
October 26, 2007
October 25, 2007
1. “A mother is a person who seeing there are only four pieces of pie for five people, promptly announces she never did care for pie.” ~Tenneva Jordan
2. “The moment a child is born, the mother is also born. She never existed before. The woman existed, but the mother, never. A mother is something absolutely new.” ~Rajneesh
3. “The phrase “working mother” is redundant.” ~Jane Sellman
4. Sweater, n.: garment worn by child when its mother is feeling chilly. ~Ambrose Bierce
5. “The heart of a mother is a deep abyss at the bottom of which you will always find forgiveness.” ~Honoré de Balzac
6. “When you are a mother, you are never really alone in your thoughts. A mother always has to think twice, once for herself and once for her child.” ~Sophia Loren
7. “She never quite leaves her children at home, even when she doesn’t take them along.” ~Margaret Culkin Banning
8. “If evolution really works, how come mothers only have two hands?” ~Milton Berle
9. “Mothers are fonder than fathers of their children because they are more certain they are their own.” ~Aristotle
10. “Women are aristocrats, and it is always the mother who makes us feel that we belong to the better sort.” ~John Lancaster Spalding
11. “Any mother could perform the jobs of several air traffic controllers with ease.” ~Lisa Alther
12. “Mother - that was the bank where we deposited all our hurts and worries.” ~T. DeWitt
13. “It’s not easy being a mother. If it were easy, fathers would do it.” ~From the television show The Golden Girls
I think this is a very accurate portrayal of Mothers...Thank you Grace, for letting me borrow your post.
This is what she had to say:
Lori @ Single Parents Unite : I am subscribing and reading lots of mommy blogs, i.e., blogs by working moms, stay-at-home moms or homeschooling moms. Lori is different she is also a mom but as her blog name says, she is a single parent. Her blog gives light to the struggles and journey of single parenting, which gives lots of inspiration.
Wow...thanks you so much. Its always nice to be recognized in the blogger community and to let single parents know they are not alone:) You should take a peek at was she has to offer as well. I will be reposting her TT from today because I thought it was awesome!
13 ways to ease stress during the holiday season
1. Have lots of sex.
2. Excercise...get outside and take a walk.
4. Get a massage.
5. Watch mindless TV when you have too much going on in your head.
6. Read a book.
7. Listen to your favorite music with your eyes closed.
8. Bake cookies just because, the ones that are prepackaged...as easy as 1-2-3.
9. Call a friend and go have a drink or a coffee at your nearest Starbucks.
10. Take a long relaxing bath with your favorite bath oils. Dont forget the candles.
11. Did I say have lots of sex?
12. Drink a glass of wine.
13. Take a deep cleansing breath INNNNNNNNNN and OUUUUUUUUT.
I got this yummy treat from Mar who got the idea from Hootin Anni's. She is handing out a treat daily and welcomes passing it around but not among friends. It is her wish that we reach NEW ones by choosing random visitors. Therefore, Im passing it on to some really cool people. I hope they enjoy it!!
October 24, 2007
October 23, 2007
I really miss them when they arent around and they always know how to make me smile. Thanks for being there. You guys are awesome!!
Tea Time Ramblings
October 22, 2007
My DBF Michael and I went to see The Kingdom this weekend. I was impressed with the way the movie was made. It gave you a harsh realization of what life must be like in the Middle East. It started off with a bang (literally) and did a good job of keeping up the pace. Now I can really understand, on one level, what it must be like for Americans living in those countries. Not to mention the soliders (God Bless them and their families). Jamie Foxx and Jennifer Garner did a great job along with the rest of the cast. I give this movie 2 thumbs up.
October 20, 2007
Caramel Peach Upside-Down Cake
2/3 cup sugar
1 tablespoon light corn syrup
6 whole allspice berries, optional
1 tablespoon water
3 large ripe peaches (about 1 pound)
3/4 cup all-purpose flour
1/2 cup old-fashioned grits
1/2 teaspoon baking powder
1/4 teaspoon baking soda
1/4 teaspoon fine salt
1/2 cup unsalted butter (1 stick), at room temperature
2/3 cup sugar
2 large eggs, at room temperature
1/2 cup sour cream, at room temperature
Serving suggestions: Vanilla ice cream or whipped cream
Position a rack in the middle of the oven and preheat to 350 degrees F. Butter a 9-inch cake pan, line bottom with parchment paper and brush the paper with butter.
Caramel peaches: Combine the sugar, corn syrup, allspice and water in a medium saucepan. Stir over medium heat until the sugar dissolves. Increase the heat to high, and continue to cook, without stirring, until the mixture becomes an amber caramel, about 5 minutes. Pour the caramel into the prepared pan and set aside to cool.
Halve and pit the peaches, but leave their skins on. Cut each half into 3 wedges. Arrange the wedges in concentric circles in the pan. Set aside while you make the cake batter.
Cake: Whisk the flour, grits, baking powder, baking soda, and salt in a medium bowl.
Slowly mix the butter and sugar in a large bowl with a hand-held electric mixer. Increase the speed to high, and continue beating until the butter is light and fluffy, about 5 minutes. Add the eggs 1 at time, waiting for each to be fully incorporated before adding the next.
While mixing at a low speed, add the dry ingredients in 3 additions, alternating with the sour cream in 2 additions, beginning and ending with the flour. Increase the speed to medium and mix briefly to make a smooth batter. Pour the batter over the peaches and smooth over.
Bake the cake until golden brown and a toothpick inserted in the center comes out clean, about 40 to 45 minutes. Cool the cake in the pan on a rack, about 20 minutes.
Run a knife around the edge of the pan to release the cake. Carefully invert the cake onto a serving plate and remove the parchment paper. Serve warm or at room temperature with ice cream or whipped cream, if desired.
October 19, 2007
Men love beer. Some even have a special affinity for beer kegs. But after graduating college (or not graduating, as it were), you'll need to ditch the old college paraphernalia and upgrade to more sophisticated tastes. ...Which is why the stylish mini beer keg dispenser was created. Man, will my Dad love this!!
Say goodbye to the wasted time and unnecessary complexity of multiple remotes. Control your HDTV, adjust aspect ratios, or change sound modes with the brilliant 3.5" color touch screen on the Logitech Harmony 1000 advanced universal remote. Any man would love this!!
October 18, 2007
13 things I love about this time of the year
3. Winter clothes
4. Sleeping in on a rainy day.
October 17, 2007
October 16, 2007
• Problems with friends. Normal teens focus on their friends. In fact, their friends and the people they hang out with often become more important than their family. When a teenager is a loner, it may be a sign that something is seriously wrong.
• Difficulty with school. Refusing to go to school is an unmistakable sign that something is wrong. The same goes for a marked change in school performance and getting caught ditching school.
• Behavior that doesn't fit in. If your child is considered "weird" or "odd" by other kids their age, it should be cause for concern. Not only is it painful for an adolescent to be an outsider, but it could signal a serious mental disorder.
• Trouble with alcohol or drugs. For many teens, experimenting with alcohol and drugs is part of growing up. But if this experience is accompanied by a drop in grades or becomes a regular occurrence, it's time to seek help.
• Depression and anxiety. Children who are consistently sad, anxious, moody or negative may be experiencing the symptoms of an emotional problem. A preoccupation with death should always be taken very seriously. Suicide is one of the leading causes of death among adolescents.
• Destructive behavior. When a child hurts himself or others, it's a red flag he or she needs help. This includes violent temper tantrums, fighting, threats, hurting animals, vandalism, setting fires and being fascinated with weapons. If your child has a run-in with the law, it's a clear call for help. (I spent so much time in court, they knew me by my first name).
Other Warning Signs:
• Preoccupation with obesity even if body weight is normal or below normal.
• Changes in eating or sleeping patterns.
• Inability to cope.
• Many complaints about physical ailments.
• Dramatic mood swings.
Whatever you do, don't give up and don't back down. I found myself dealing more with issues pertaining to his friends and lack of discipline from their parents, than with anything else. Don't be afraid of your children. I am a single Mom that took on a 16 year old and lived to talk about it. You can accomplish anything, just be unrelenting and always let the child know who is in charge. That's the bottom line.
October 15, 2007
Thank you so much for this award. It means alot knowing that people take the time to read what I write. I dont know if any of you have dropped by to check out Baby~Amore's blog but her kids are ADORABLE!! Go check it out.
October 13, 2007
1/2 pound thin spaghetti
1 pound sugar snap peas
1 cup vegetable oil
1/4 cup rice vinegar
1/3 cup soy sauce
3 tablespoons dark sesame oil
1 tablespoon honey
2 garlic cloves, minced
1 teaspoon grated fresh ginger
2 tablespoons white sesame seeds, toasted
1/2 cup smooth peanut butter
1 teaspoon salt
1 teaspoon freshly ground black pepper
2 red bell peppers, cored and seeded, and thinly sliced
4 scallions (with and green parts), sliced diagonally
1 tablespoon white sesame seeds, toasted
3 tablespoons chopped fresh parsley leaves
Bring a large pot of salted water to a boil. Add the spaghetti and cook according to package directions. Drain and set aside.
Meanwhile, bring another large pot of salted water to a boil, add the sugar snap peas, return to a boil, and cook for 3 minutes, until crisp tender. Lift the sugar snap peas from the water with a slotted spoon and immerse them in a bowl of ice water. Drain.
For the dressing, whisk together the vegetable oil, rice vinegar, soy sauce, sesame oil, honey, garlic, ginger, 1 tablespoon sesame seeds, peanut butter, salt, to taste, and the pepper, in a medium bowl.
Combine the spaghetti, sugar snap peas, peppers and scallions in a large bowl. Pour the dressing over the spaghetti mixture. Add the scallions and the parsley and mix again.
October 12, 2007
When was the last time you were surprised?
My 40th birthday last year. My Mom threw me a party and I was totally clueless.
Fill in the blanks: My eyes are ________, but I wish they were __________.
My eyes are Hazel and I dont wish they were any other color because they are one of my best features.
If you were a Beanie Baby, what would you look like and what would your name be?
I would be a hot pink kitty named pinky.
Name two things you consistently do that you consider to be healthy habits.
Take flaxseed oil daily and excercise.
What brand of toothpaste are you using these days? Do you like it? Why or why not?
Crest. I like the taste and it keeps my teeth white.
1 lb. refrigerated or frozen cheese tortellini
2 cups frozen baby peas
1 (12-ounce). can tuna in olive oil
1/2 teaspoon dried basil leaves
Salt and pepper to taste
Cook the tortellini in boiling salted water until tender, adding the peas for the last minute of cooking. Drain.
Meanwhile, drain tuna, reserving 3 tablespoons of the oil. Return tortellini and peas to pot and add the tuna along with reserved oil, basil, salt, and pepper to taste. Heat through, stirring gently. You can sprinkle this with Parmesan cheese. Serves 4
Ramen Corn Chowder
1 package Ramen noodles (any flavor)
2 cups water
1 (16 ounce) can creamed corn
1 cup frozen corn
1/4 teaspoon ground ginger
1/2 teaspoon curry powder
1/2 cup milk
1/2 cup grated Colby cheese
In a large saucepan, bring 2 cups of water to a boil. Add ramen noodles and the flavor packet and cook for 5 minutes. Add creamed corn, frozen corn, ginger, curry powder, and milk. Heat over medium heat to a gentle simmer, and cook for 2-4 minutes; do not let the soup boil. Add grated cheese and stir until melted and the soup is blended. Serves 4.
Oven fried chicken thighs
1 cup instant mashed potato flakes
1/2 teaspoon salt
1 teaspoon paprika
1/3 cup whole milk or evaporated milk
2 pounds chicken thighs, skin removed, if desired
In a shallow bowl or pie plate, combine potato flakes, 1/2 teaspoon salt, and the paprika. Put milk in another bowl. Dip chicken pieces in the milk then coat with the potato mixture, pressing mixture in to coat thoroughly. Arrange chicken thighs in a 13x9-inch baking pan (skin side up if skin was not removed). Bake in preheated 425° oven for 45 minutes, or until chicken is tender and juices run clear when pierced with a fork. Serves 4.
October 11, 2007
13 songs that I could never get sick of listening to
3. My own prison - Creed
4. Crazy – Patsy Cline
5. It must have been love – Roxette
October 9, 2007
They made a fortune off of me!!
October 8, 2007
Face it. Relationships are hard. No lets change that. They’re incredibly hard. To bring two separate types of individuals into a single life to share each other’s thoughts, joys, depression, anger, and happiness. Most likely one of you wont be on the same page as the other at the same times but we expect them to be. Life doesn’t work that way.
We need to remember, we’re two separate people with separate lives and separate problems. Yes, many of your problems involve both of you directly but many don’t. You can never change your partner into someone they’re not. They spent 20 to 50 years becoming who they are. They aren’t going to change for you. It’s not going to happen. They can try but how long will it last until they turn back into the real people they are?
We all have disagreements, arguments, fights, or whatever. In how we do this is the difference in making or breaking a relationship. Remember, every fight leaves some kind of scar. Whether that be emotional or physical. Neither is pleasant and some can last a lifetime. Physical scars heal much quicker than emotional ones. When one suffers enough emotional scars, they get to a point where they are going to explode. They just can’t take it anymore. Their life seems ruined and one can go into a deep depression or be internally working on how to get out of this relationship. Whether that means divorce, an affair, or a complete mental breakdown. This is when someone is most vulnerable.
Would you rather be in a horrible relationship or be alone for a while? Getting yourself back together and then moving on to your new life. And yes, a new life. I know my choice. I have made it twice in my life and both times I made the right choice. I moved on. Was it a difficult decision? Absolutely, tremendously hard but one I had to make to keep my sanity and not be sucked up into their miserable world. Be safe and be good to yourself.
Wow….its funny hearing it come from a guy. As women, we always think that its us that suffer more than the men. However, Im not sure about that anymore. I can understand what he is saying from past experience and failures. Sometimes making the decision to walk away is the only route you can take. Be strong and do whats best for you.
Thank you Roni for sharing that with me and being there for me. We've been through alot of good times and bad in the 28 years that we've been friends. I think we both got something out of this!
October 7, 2007
Family Pictures - Every year until my oldest son went in the military, I would get their pictures taken and pass those out as presents. If you play your cards right, you can get great deals around September and October. I would buy the frames at Wal-Mart or Big Lots and everyone loved them
Craft Bag - This can be done very reasonably. Take a large shoebox, and fill with odds and ends that can be used to make things. Cotton balls, tissue paper, glue, markers, paper, etc. Be creative. Even things like buttons and ribbon.
Makeup Kit - This idea is great for teen girls. Take a shoebox and fill with nail polish, polish remover, cosmetics, etc. You can cover the shoebox and write their name on the top of the box.
Garden Gift "Basket" - For the garden lover. Use a large clay pot for your "basket" fill with seeds, gloves, tools, plant food, etc.
Foaming Vanilla Bath -
1 cup oil (any vegetable oil)
1/2 c. liquid soap
1 tbsp vanilla extract
1/4 cup honey (optional)
Blend the ingredients together. Shake well before using. Use 1/4 cup per bath.
You can be very creative with the packaging of bath products. Take an empty wine cooler four pack (complete with box). Spray paint the box white (or gold or silver). Sponge paint with contrasting color. Wash labels off of bottles but keep the lids. Decorate the bottle with paint pens, with designs like squiggles, etc. Pour foaming bath in each bottle, close lids and put in box. Gifts for the Kids You don't have to break the bank to give kids practical and fun gifts that they will actually use.
If anyone else has some great ideas for gifts, please feel free to share. Wouldn’t it be nice to have Christmas done and paid for before it actually happens and with no lingering credit card bills? I will post your ideas and give you full credit!!!
October 6, 2007
Chicken and Rice Casserole
2 tablespoons butter or vegetable oil
1 medium onion, peeled and diced
3 cups diced, cooked chicken
2 (14 1/2-ounce) cans green beans, drained and rinsed
1 (8-ounce) can water chestnuts, drained and chopped
1 (4-ounce) jar pimentos
1 (10 3/4-ounce) can condensed cream of celery soup
1 cup mayonnaise
1 (6-ounce) box long-grain wild rice, cooked according to package directions
1 cup grated sharp Cheddar
Preheat oven to 350 degrees F.
Heat butter or oil in a small skillet over medium heat. Add onion and saute until translucent, about 5 minutes. Remove from heat and transfer to a large bowl.
Add all remaining ingredients to bowl and mix together until thoroughly combined.
Pour into a greased 3-quart casserole dish. Bake for 20 to 25 minutes or until bubbly. Let stand for a few minutes before serving.
October 5, 2007
1. My mother was a single mother also. She did a great job of raising me and my younger sister and I truly believe I get my strength from her.
2. My mother was diagnosed with Non Hodgkin's Lymphoma earlier this year. She is only 59 and is currently undergoing treatment. This has been one of the hardest things for me to endure and I pray every night that God will help to heal her body into a full recovery.
3. I'm obsessive compulsive about alot of things, especially in my job.
4. Ive just started a new workout routine to help me feel better about myself.
5. I dont like Broccoli, Cauliflower, Mushrooms, Onions or Olives .
No meme is complete without tags. I talk to these girls on a regular basis and admire them for who they are and what they do for me when I read their blogs. I would love to know more about them.
If you or someone you know is a victim of domestic abuse, please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or TTY 1-800-787-3224.Until the violence stops, the hotline will continue to answer…One Call at a Time. Help is available to callers 24 hours a day, 365 days a year. Hotline advocates are available for victims and anyone calling on their behalf to provide crisis intervention, safety planning, information and referrals to agencies in all 50 states, Puerto Rico and the U.S. Virgin Islands. Assistance is available in English and Spanish with access to more than 140 languages through interpreter services. I hope this information helps.
October 4, 2007
This banner was made just for my blog by Cindi at Whispering from the wings. Isnt she talented?? Thanks again!!
Thirteen Ways To Love Your Lover
2. Bake them something they love - like brownies, then put their initials on the top with M&M’s.
3. Send them a text message – or an email that they will get first thing in the morning when they get to work…just a little something simple to let them know you are thinking about them. Send them an e-card. Here is a great website for that.
4. Give them your undivided attention – if they have a story to tell, give them your full attention. Look them in the eyes so they know you care.
5. Hold Hands – I think this is the sweetest sign of affection. Its like saying, “I love you and Im there for you.”
6. Flirt with each other– start the foreplay before the bedroom. Ive found if you tease each other all day, the sex that night is off the charts.
7. Wear something sexy - either on top or underneath your clothes. Sexy bra’s and panties can be a real turn on.
8. Snuggle – Watch a movie together and just touch each other.
9. Give them surprises – Buy them a card just because, or pick up a bag of their favorite brand of M&M’s.
10. Make out – Its hard to do this without it leading to sex but sometimes I just like to lay there and kiss…its one of my favorite things to do.
11. Always make them feel special – men have a tendency to have roaming eyes (well, some women do to)…but when you’re out with someone special, put that roaming eye away. That’s rude and disrespectful. A woman likes to feel like SHE is the only one rather than being in competition with all of the other women on the planet.
12. Have a picnic indoors (or in bed) – anyone for strawberries and chocolate?? Don’t forget the whip cream!!
13. Body massages – this can be very erotic and shows the other person that you love them and want them to feel good. Heck, even a good foot massage can say a lot without saying anything.
October 3, 2007
Here is a shout out to my youngest son Brad for his 16th birthday. Wait until you see what I got you!!!!!I love you and I am sooooo proud of you. Let's go eat some Chinese food because everyone knows that's your favorite:) However, we can not celebrate until after 4:18pm because that is when you will officially be 16!!
October 2, 2007
Anyone that would make an ass of herself over and over again in public and fail to comply with the courts requirements to keep her kids deserves to lose them!! What an idiot...this girl really needs help. I dont know if giving them to their loser father is the right thing either. Now he REALLY doesnt have to get a job!! I, myself, think her mother should have custody if anyone was going to get it. Its funny...when they were married, they made Kevin out to be the worst father and husband ever...now, they make him out to be father of the year. Come on...the guy is still no good, he just doesnt have the cameras on him 24/7 like Britney. After all, he did leave his ex girlfriend Shar, while she was 6 months pregnant, to be with Britney. He doesnt pay child support for those kids either!! Britney needs to disappear and get her life back on track...but, I believe she is so selfish and self centered, it wont happen. God bless those beautiful boys...they dont deserve such screwed up parents. Look at what money buys you......AMAZING!!! What a perfect example of how NOT to be a single mother.
Plan Ahead - Do something that is fun, relaxing, and as stress free as possible with people you really care about. If the holidays are just too painful and the reminders are everywhere, consider a vacation that allows you to "escape " the painful triggers.
Start new family traditions - You may want to hold on to some of the past traditions but it is a good idea to create some new rituals with friends and family.
Reassure your kids - Children can help create some of the new holiday rituals and traditions. Take time to brainstorm with your children about new ideas for celebrating.
Is it in the best interest of the child/children - Decide ahead of time how holidays will be divided. Reassure kids that you will be OK while they are with the other parent. Remember, tired kids will be stressed out and cranky, so plan according to their ages and ability to adjust. Keep the arrangements as simple as possible. My kids always spent Christmas morning with their Dad and Christmas Eve and Christmas night with me. It worked out great.
Make a schedule - Make a list of everything you need to do for the holidays and a target date to accomplish your goals.
Ask for help from family and friends- Rely on a healthy support system if you are feeling isolated, lonely or depressed. Talk it out and get it out. I don’t know what I would do without my family and friends. Sometimes its even better than counseling.
Be realistic - Picture perfect holidays are usually just an illusion. Have realistic expectations about the holiday season, especially the first year.
Take care of yourself - Get enough sleep and exercise. Eat healthy in order to maximize your ability to cope. It's easy to overeat or party too much to medicate your pain, but in the long run, it creates more problems.
Schedule time to rest - Give yourself a break. You deserve it!
One day at a time/one holiday at a time - It will get easier. It will get better. It will hurt less. Right now, just concentrate on one thing at a time!
If you are feeling overwhelmed, anxious, depressed, or stuck, seek professional help. If for nothing else, to get you through the holidays. Therapy can provide a safe, supportive environment in which you can gain insight, learn problem-solving skills and find solutions to dealing with the anger and pain of separation and divorce.
Maybe if you're good, Santa will bring you one of these this year.