October 18, 2007

Do you know how to flirt??

So, you’ve been out of the singles game for quite a while and aren’t quite sure the rules of the game anymore. Do woman ask men for their number? If he doesn’t call right after I give him my number, does that mean he won’t? Do I play hard to get or is that “Old School”? Should I put out on the first date? What do women do these days? Being single isn’t easy, although, it can be fun. If you just want to date and keep it light, you should let the other person know up front. There is nothing worse than two people being on different pages. Here are some flirting tips, just in case you forgot or you need a little tune up. When you see someone you like, do some repeated contact...at least three separate verbal or non-verbal clues need to be given. Why? The first time he's going to look around and make sure it's really him that you are flirting with. The second, he knows it's him and he gets flushed and pleased. (At this point he'll probably walk by you and at least smile, he's checking you out a little more.) The third time you can express interest by introducing yourself, or commenting on what he’s wearing, the pool game he is playing, or what he is drinking. You can also wave from across the room. Now he knows you are open to meeting and it will be a cinch (ya, right!) Whisper, it always gets their attention. It doesn’t really matter what you say, it’s how you say it. Don't sit with other women, men don't want you to reject them in front of an audience. If you do go out with a friend, separate every so often or take a breather from talking. Men don’t want to risk your disapproval by interrupting you. Treat men gently. If someone you are not interested in approaches you and flirts, be nice. Remember, all of the other men are watching to see what you do. If you laugh after he leaves or show visual disapproval, you are cutting your chances on anyone else approaching you. If he acts like a Jerk, be polite but direct. People can usually tell in my eyes when something they have said has made me mad, I’m sure it’s like that with most women. You can always roll your eyes and walk away or ignore them too. Men can be stupid sometimes. Use the “Buddy” system. Walk through a group of men and have someone watch to see who's checking you out. Become more irresistible! Show a little leg or wear a shirt that shows some cleavage, but not so much that it makes you look like a tramp. The redder the lipstick, the more available and noticeable you will be. Arch your back a little as you sit up tall and cross your legs high. Look over your shoulder and smile at him. This is always a signal you are interested. Give him a look from head to toe, nod with approval and then flash him your most winning smile. Remember that flirting is a way of connecting from the heart and acknowledging someone. Be generous with your sex appeal! Have Fun!

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3 comments:

thecabinet said...

You sure know alot about that subject........

katherine. said...

I think I would rather respond to someone flirting with me...rather than be the one flirting first...laughing...

Deb - Mom of 3 Girls said...

Flirting is something I was always never very good at - I'm with Katherine, it's easier to respond to than to initiate, for me anyway...

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