December 31, 2008

13 things to remember if you're going through a break up during the holidays.


1. This too shall pass.

2. You are not the only one. It happens every day.

3. You will love again. I promise.

4. Make the best of a bad situation. Listen to your favorite holiday music (only happy songs), bake some brownies, or watch your favorite movie.

5. Smiling makes you feel better.

6. There are people who love you.

7. Its almost over. Stay strong.

8. If you dont want to decorate, you dont have to.

9. Look at childhood photo albums. It will bring back wonderful memories.

10. Hug your kids. Their love is unconditional.

11. Think about the lesson you learned from this and dont make the same mistake twice.

12. Online dating profiles are just a click away.

13. Phone a friend. Go out and find some Holiday cheer.

December 29, 2008

Thank You Carina....


Carina sent me this award and it made my day!

December 26, 2008

Its time for guilty pleasure of the week....


My guilty pleasure this week is classic rock. I grew up in the 70's and 80's. I think the music we had back then was the best. I listen to everything from the Eagles, to the Beatles, Van Halen, Chicago, Queen, and I think I have every 70's mix CD they have on the market. If you would have told me back then that what I listened to would be considered classic some day, I would have laughed. Guess what? The same thing is going to happen to the youths today. Can you imagine Slipknot, Pantara, or Marilyn Manson on an oldies channel? Ya, that's pretty funny. I cant even imagine.

Time goes by so quickly but I find that when I'm listening to my classic rock, it takes me back. Don't you have those songs from your past that bring back all sorts of memories? Your first kiss? Losing your virginity? Hanging out with friends? MTV when they had no commercials? Those were the good ole' days. I don't think I could ever get sick of listening to Elton John. Does this make me old? Nah...does it mean I'm stuck in time?? just means that I love to listen to music that makes me feel good. I cant go a day at work without listening to my tunes. Ive tried to mix it up a bit but I always come back to the classics. Those were good times!

December 23, 2008

December 22, 2008


You hear about it everyday. People, mostly girls, being persuaded by men to do or say things they wouldn't normally do because of a persistent admirer. If you are not sure that the person you have been talking to would be considered a stalker, here is a general explanation. Stalking is defined as repeated and persistent unwanted communications and/or approaches that produce fear in the victim. Lately the news has been littered with cases of Internet stalkers who hunt down, assault, and even kill their victims. I use to use instant messenger all the time. I thought it was fun and a great way to meet people. Then I realized, most of the guys that would "IM" me, were only interested in one thing....SEX. The ones that freaked me out, I ignored and they would generally go away. Some were a little more persistent than others. Since the beginning of computers and the Internet, stalkers have come a long way. Did you know that a person can look up your personal information? If they have your phone number, they can even find out your address. Scary? You betcha. You cant look up a cell phone number quite as easy as a land line but it can be done. Here are a few things to help:

1. When faced with this issue, it is best to ignore and move on. Do not show any interest with this person for he or she will feed on your reactions.

2. Do not react on what this person does to you. Don't speak or show any sign that he or she is really getting to you, because this will keep them going.

3. Most of the time you dont know the person that you are talking to. You need to stay on your toes because it is very easy to trick anyone online. Don't put any of your life history and personal information including your full real name online. I know you would think this is a given but people do it all the time.

There are quite a few places a stalker can find you. Myspace is a perfect example. They did an investigation and found thousands of pedophiles on this site. Young girls are the easiest target but so are desperate people. If you are freshly out of a relationship, you could be the perfect target. Watch yourself. If the person does not stop after being asked, you might want to consider legal action. It's happened to me. Not the legal action part but being cyberstalked. I no longer use my Instant Messenger and I feel much safer.

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December 19, 2008

You've heard of empty nest syndrome...but what if they wont leave?

With my youngest sons graduation getting closer, I have to shake my head and wonder. I'm not sure if he has a plan to leave this nest any time soon. Why would he? The meals are free, his clothes are washed, there is food in the fridge, and a warm shower whenever he needs it. I know people always get misty when they talk about their empty nest, me on the other hand, cant wait for both of my little birdies to finally fly the coop. It was a big adjustment after my oldest son left 2 years ago, but after time, I got use to it. My food bill went down, I only had 1/3 of the laundry to do, no more waiting up all night for him to come home, and the world revolved around someone besides him. Now, I'm really looking forward to round two. I have been raising kids for over 20 years. I seen my 20's and 30's come and go without a thought for myself. I'm 42 now and as June gets closer, I find myself picking out luggage for his graduation present. Don't get me wrong, I adore my son. We are just two different people. I want him to succeed in life and do what he has to to make himself happy. I just want him to do it on his dime.

We have planned a trip for him to stay with his Dad in Tennessee after graduation. They never had the chance to develop a relationship and I think it will do them both good. I know my son though. I'm not sure if he can stay any place too far from his Mom. I hope when he gets out there, it will push him to excel and do something for himself. He's such a good kid and has never given me any grief besides his grades and the laziness he inherited from God knows who. He will make a wonderful husband to a woman that can cook, clean, and tolerate video games. Funny thing about that kid, he is smarter than me. He can do anything he wants....but I prefer him to do it in his own place. Does that make me a bad Mom?


December 18, 2008

John Saul


My guilty pleasure for the week is my love for John Saul. Have any of you read his books? I just finished The God Project. A story of things happening to the children in Eastbury Massachusetts. Something that causes healthy babies to turn cold in their cribs. An entire town waits on the edge of panic for the next nightmare. You're never sure who is the bad guy and who is the good guy. This was a great story that kept me guessing all the way to the end, and then what a twist! It is one of many books I have read that he has written.

The book that got me hooked was The Manhattan Hunt Club. It is a story of a falsely convicted college student who's future vanishes before his eyes. Soon, he finds himself beneath the teeming streets of Manhattan, in a hidden landscape of twisting tunnels and forgotten subterranean chambers. There, an invisible popluation of homeless and desperate people have carved out their own shadow society. Someone planned for him to be there, but why?? You will have to read the book and find out. We also just discovered that the story was based on actual tunnels under the city. They are going to do a special on them this month. That makes it even more intense.

His expertise is drama with a touch of horror. I have yet to see a romantic moment in any of his books. He goes where alot of authors wont. I gave away all of my Danielle Steel novels and replaced them with John Saul. If you ask me, he's one of the best writers out there. Love him!!

December 17, 2008

Are single parents targets?

When employers are seeking to hire a new employee, do they look at their qualities or are they searching for someone to push around? As a single parent, you have to put up with alot more than someone who only has one mouth to feed. Most single people, (maybe not so much in today's economy) can walk away from a job and not worry too much if they go without a paycheck for a week or even take a job for lower pay. They enter the work force on a different level than someone who is worried about providing for their children. I know when I was younger, I could quit a job at the drop of a hat if I didn't like my boss. It was the same way when I was married. I had a safety net. If I wasnt happy, I could leave and simply find another job at my leisure. That isn't the case these days. I think they know we NEED to work and are more than willing to put up with some of the crap that is tossed our way. Working for a person that has no regards for you and a heavy chip on their shoulder can make for a pretty tough work week.

Why are we always fighting for something or with someone? Our ex husbands, the child support agencies, the crooks that steal our money (Supportkids), and bosses or coworkers that could care less about how difficult they make our lives. Isn't it tough enough to be a single parent without these added stresses? I feel, at times, that society has closed the door on us and our needs. We live in a world dictated by people that have the ability to hire and fire us at the drop of a hat. Remember when they actually needed a reason to fire you? First the verbal warning, then the written, then possible disciplinary action or termination. When did companies get the right to change the laws? I don't think any company should be able to fire someone because they feel like it. Today, however, you sign a contract when you are hired stating that you are an "At Will" employee. No, I haven't lost my job but other people have. This is simply a post, as all of my posts are, of something I feel strongly about. Maybe I'm just preaching from my soap box but those of you that have never had to experience this type of behavior, couldn't possibly understand it. And, if you are the boss of a single parent, don't treat us any different. With everything we have on our plate, how could you possible get gratification by kicking someone when they are down? We are hard workers. Give us a break. That isnt a ticket to be a jerk, and if you think it is, maybe you're in the wrong position at your job. Bosses need to be fair, no matter what your line of work is. We should all be treated as equals and with respect. Being a single parents shouldnt be a factor, our job performance should speak for itself. Am I right?

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December 15, 2008

Blondes have more fun.....

Is that statement fact or fiction? I know there is a stereotype surrounding blonde's but that is typical of any shade of hair. I know that red heads are supposed to be fiery but I don’t remember what they say about brunettes. Are we the smart ones? I believe men will look at a beautiful woman no matter what color hair she has. I was born a brunette but have lightened my hair for a long time. I like my hair both ways (dark and light) but think I look better as a Champagne blonde. Of course, if you ask my mother she would never agree with me on that. I have noticed though, when my hair is darker, I look younger. I wonder why that is?

I don't think changing your hair color means changing who you are, its simply enhancing it. And if you like what you see in the mirror, why does it matter what other people think? Back in the day, everyone wanted to look like Farrah Fawcett, so we all went blonde. Remember "Sun In"? That stuff you put in your hair and then laid in the sun? How many ended up with orange hair? What about the blonde jokes? I think I have heard a million of them. So I ask, why would anyone change their hair color to be compared with someone stupid? And why, if you're blonde, would you automatically be put into a retard category? My bf is blonde and he is exceptionally smart. Maybe the blonde jokes are aimed at female's only. Isn't that a bit prejudice? I would like to know if hair color has changed anyones life drastically? And if so, did you go dark to light or light to dark? Honestly, I think its who you are and not your hair color. However, I could be wrong......

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Survivor Gabon

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My guilty pleasure for the week is that I am a Survivor fan and have been since the first season in 2000. I haven't missed one episode. Not one. I guess you can say I'm one of their biggest fans. However, that doesn't mean Id like to go on the show. I'm alot more comfortable watching it from my sofa. DBF Michael is always trying to getting me to audition. I told him it would be a waste of time. I would be voted off on the first round. Why?? Not only do I need to eat, I definitely need to sleep. By day 3, they would be lined up to put my name on the ballet.

That being said, I have an opinion about that witch Corinne from this seasons show. I have never seen someone with so little class on the history of Survivor. What she said to Sugar was inexcusable. Anyone that would go on national TV and disrespect someone's dead father should be banned from any affiliation with the show. She claimed to be smarter than most, yet she didn't make it to the final three. Obviously, she isn't as smart as she thinks she is. If so, should would have won. And Randy, no wonder he is alone. How sad it must be to have such a mean demeanor. If the only person that wants to get close to you has four paws and a tail, maybe you should work on your people skills. I couldn't imagine spending any time with someone like that, let alone 39 days. I'm glad Bob won, but I honestly wish it would have been Sugar. So what if she cried and showed some emotion. She was real and played one heck of a game. I hope this show brings her some sort of success.

As for me, I will continue to watch Survivor until the end. Next stop....BRAZIL!! Come on 2009.

December 14, 2008

The Day the Earth Stood Still

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OMG, what an awful movie. I went in to the theater with such high hopes because of Keanu Reeves. Even he couldn't help this flick. We paid $30.00 dollars to see it in IMAX because we thought the special effects were going to be off the charts. No such luck. If you want to see all of the exciting scenes, just watch the trailer. It has the only two special effects scenes in the whole movie. I kept waiting for it to get better but it didn't. I never seen the original movie but I'm guessing it was 100 times better than this if they tried to do a remake. Will Smith's little boy is coming along with his acting skills and I see this as a rehearsal for something much better for him. You will spend your time waiting for something to happen but it never does.

If you are thinking about spending money to actually see this, don't waste your cash. I wouldn't even recommend the video. Its that bad. I give this two VERY BIG thumbs down.

December 13, 2008

Inner Strength

The holidays are quickly approaching and Christmas might be one of the toughest to endure. It's filled with holiday cheer and wonderful memories for most. If this is your first Christmas alone, you need to find your inner strength. Don't let the demons win over your happiness. We all have the strength to over come anything. Even if you don't believe in yourself, other people believe in you. I was blog hopping the other day and came across a post that really made be stop, reread, and feel so bad for the girl that wrote it. It wasn't a normal post, but rather, something written in her profile. She sounded so sad. She stated that she was blindsided by a boyfriend of three years and is having a really hard time this season. Rather than planning her wedding, she is taking life one day at a time. The reason for the blog was to help her heal. First of all I want to commend her for finding an outlet. I have found blogging to be very therapeutic too. Second, she needs to know that this too shall pass.

When you put yourself out there and fall in love, there are never any guarantee's. You also cant choose the person you love. Its just something that happens. If the relationship ended, try to look at it from the outside in. See if there was a lesson to be learned and remember the good times. I believe that everything happens for reason. People come in and out of our life every day. Don't let another person dictate your existence. Remember who you were before they were there. I know that's not always easy. Its kind of like trying to stop a cut from bleeding with a bandaid. It doesn't stop the blood, it works more as a support to help the wound heal. Look for your own support system. I'm not saying something to numb the pain but let yourself hurt and mourn the loss. Then move on. You must not let the pain control your life or happiness. We are all special in our own way. Trust me, there will be someone else and you will love again. Get through the holidays the best that you can and enjoy spending time with your family. After all, they were the ones that loved you first. Remember that.

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December 12, 2008

Happy Birthday Honey!!!

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Today is DBF Michaels 39th birthday (again)..I want to be the first to wish him a very Happy Birthday. I hope you like your cake!!

I love you

December 11, 2008

Making love VS. Sex

I'm not sure if a man would know the difference between making love and sex, but a women certainly would. Sex is the act, making love is everything that comes before, during, and after. I think that foreplay before the bedroom actually enhances the love making experience. Women love to be romanced. Phone sex is a great way to get the ball rolling, or love notes, small gestures (rubbing your feet after a long day), kissing, playing (play fighting or teasing but be nice). These are all very important and can help get a woman in the mood. I have had the experience of dating someone who's idea of foreplay was telling me "I want some." Yep, that got me wet every time. NOT!

Love making means more between two people that actually love each other. I love a manly man but only in certain aspects. When it comes to being intimate, a man needs to make his woman feel beautiful and wanted. Sex should not be expected just because, you need to work up to it. That's why alot of women see it as a chore who have been married for a while. The man has forgotten the romance. We would be much quicker to jump in the sack if the feeling was mutual. Unfortunately, it takes us a little longer to get motivated. With all of the things we are responsible for day after day, you don't have much energy come night fall. If a man helped with the chores and kids, that would leave us with alot more charisma. I don't know about you but a man that does house work gets me hot just watching him. If he thinks enough about me to cook, do the dishes, make the bed, vacuum...then I'm more apt to show him just how much I appreciate him in the bedroom. Anyone can have sex, and sometimes its all you both need. Making love, on the other hand, is a deep connection. Have you ever had sex with a one night stand and walked away feeling good?OK...maybe, but the satisfaction you feel after a night of love making is like no other. Am I right on this one?

December 10, 2008

TT #85

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13 signs your relationship is in trouble

1. You no longer have anything in common - conversation is a thing of the past.

2. You can do no right - They find fault in everything you do.

3. You are the last to know - When you become the last to know important information there has been a huge breakdown in communication. You should be the first.

4. A change in appearance - He/She use to dress up for you and look their best. Now, they no longer care.

5. Looking for distractions from problems - Has your TV replaced communication? It is common for people to find such distractions to avoid dealing with a troubled marriage and/or relationship.

6. Arguing over the same subject repeatedly - If your arguments become routine with all the same issues and no resolution, then your marriage and/or relationship is either standing still or dying fast.

7. Sex and intimacy is a thing of the past - to explanation needed for this one.

8. Trust issues - Trust is the absolute most essential part of a successful relationship, and without trust everything else will eventually collapse.

9. Do you want different things? - Are you no longer working towards the same goal?

10. Boredom - Nothing kills a marriage like a lack of passion and excitement.

11. Is he/she cheating? - Did you catch them in the act or suspect they're having an affair?

12. Are there more Con's than Pro's? - Are you miserable more than happy?

13. Do you love them but no longer like them? - Yes, you can love someone but dislike the person they are.

December 8, 2008

It’s all in the Bra…..

I know many woman are fashion savvy. We shop until we drop and rarely go home empty handed. Looking our best is something we pride ourselves on, especially on the outside. What about what’s underneath? I did some shopping recently and came home with a few things that accentuate the curves that I have. Since I am a single mother, most of my clothes were purchased at Wal-Mart when my kids were growing up. Shoes were always bought at Payless. Now that my kids are older, its time to spend a little extra on Mom. I went into one of the stores at the mall and something caught my eye. It was the most beautiful bra I had ever seen. Black with little sparkly things all over it. I tried it on. Wow!! Did it make my boobs look great? Not only that, but huge.

I’m not small chested. I’ve been a C forever. This bra turned my average C in to a knock out D. Yes, there is padding, but the way that it pushes up gives me cleavage I never knew I had. My man absolutely loves the new look. I find myself wearing shirts that show off my cleavage. Not to mention, the added attention. That wasn’t my intention but it’s funny, if you wear a shirt showing a little chest, the men look. I did a blog earlier about boob jobs. If you buy a bra like this, you won’t need one. Men act totally different around women that show a little boob. I always speculated but never experienced it. My man called me a MLF. That’s funny. For those of you who don’t know what it stands for….its “Mother Id Like to F@$&.” That made me feel beautiful. I know a lot of you are no strangers to sexy Lingerie, but this is all new to me. The price I paid was more than I use to spend on bras in a year. I think it’s worth it though, so much so, that I bought 2 more! Do you girls know the bra’s I’m talking about?

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December 6, 2008

Nutrisystems update

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As many of you know, Ive been on Nutrisystems for a little over 2 months. I started it because my employers at divorce360 wanted to pay for 3 of us to do Nutrisystems, it return, we had to blog about it daily. It wasn't a competition but rather, an honest look at the diet itself. They paid for 30 days. After that, we were on our own. The other 2 people dropped it but I decided to stay. Now, I'm down 21 pounds going into week 9. Some people have criticised the food but its not all bad. You have to remember, this isn't food you would eat at a fine dinning restaurant. Its a diet. With my last shipment of food, they sent me a 10 pound weight loss bear. Since then, Ive lost another 11 pounds. How did they know I lost the weight you ask? Their site has a place for your progress. You weigh in daily, or when you get the chance, and in return it gives you a graph of your starting weight, your current weight, and your goal along with your BMI. I like to watch the graft do down as I get closer to my goal. It gives me satisfaction and incentive.

I have my favorites and with Nutrisystems, you can choose your own menu. There are things I wouldn't order again, but that's with any restaurant menu. It costs me 234.00 a month, which is a bit steep but I am getting results. Not to mention, my complexion has completely cleared. I had no idea I would get an added bonus as well. Ive decided the hamburgers are my favorite, this week anyway. Its funny though, they are freeze dried. You have to add boiling water, let it set for 2 minutes, and it turns into a hamburger. Very strange. Also with the plan, you get to eat lots of salad, fruits, vegetables, and yogurt. I'm on the flex plan, which means, I eat their food 5 days a week and normal food 2 days a week. I do my flex days on the weekend. I was afraid at first that eating normal food would hurt my chances of losing more. That hasn't been the case. They give you guidelines to follow and you really need to watch your portions. I have found that making wise decisions isn't as hard as you would think. I feel great and everyone tells me I look great. What more could I ask for?? Another 40 pounds would be good. If you are thinking about doing this program, you have to give 100 percent. You cant eat their food and cheat when you feel like it because then you will get no results. I have been losing 2 1/2 pounds a week and that's a healthy amount to lose. I cant tell you how much better I feel in general and about myself. It really does work!

December 5, 2008

The San Diego Chargers win!!

Upclose and Personal!

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The San Diego Chargers VS. The Oakland Raiders. I have never attended a professional football game. It was alot different than I expected.

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I was excited about the game buzz until we got in the parking lot and realized there was no structure whatsoever to the way people were lining up to get in. It was every man for himself.

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Then I looked around at all of the tailgate parties. It was like nothing I have ever seen before. Chargers and Raiders fans side by side grilling hamburgers, drinking beer, and having a great time.

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The stadium was huge. Its funny, I was so worried about dressing in a Chargers shirt because I THOUGHT I was sitting on the Raiders side. appears the WHOLE stadium is the Chargers side. The Raider fans were a bit outnumberd.

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DBF Michael was very excited for the game to start. He had high hopes for his Raiders!

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You hear all of the trash talk about the Raider fans, but the Charger fans were just as bad. After alot of beer drinking, people started to get a bit carried away. Nothing major but you could definitely feel the tension between the fans.

In the end, the Chargers ended up beating the Raiders 34 to 7. I found myself rooting for both teams. DBF Michael was not happy with the score but I think we both had a nice time.

I would definitely do it again!

December 3, 2008

Ive been tagged!

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Jes tagged me. She wanted me to stop what I was doing and take a pic of myself.
So I did. Here I am in all my glory after a long day at work and a couple of hours on the computer. Scary, huh??? lol

Here were the instructions:

1. Take a picture of yourself right Now! (the moment you read this tag)

2. Don't change your clothes, don't fix your hair, just take a picture.

3. Post that picture without editing.

4. Post these instructions with your picture.

5. Tag 10 people to do this. And don't forget to leave them a message about the tag.

TT #84

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13 Instructions for life.....

1. Take into account that great love and great achievement involve great risk (no pain, no gain).

2. When you lose, dont lose the lesson. Learn from your mistakes.

3. Remember that not getting what you want can sometimes be an open door for something better.

4. Dont let an argument injure a great relationship.

5. When you find out you've made a mistake, correct it.

6. Spend some time alone every day.

7. Open your mind to change but dont let go of your values.

8. Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer (I need to practice this one).

9. A loving atmosphere in your home is the foundation for your life. Trust is the key.

10. In disagreements with loved ones, deal only with the current issue. Dont bring up the past (yep, I need to practice this one too).

11. If you're mad, count to 10 before you open your mouth. It can make all the difference in the world.

12. Do onto others as you would have them do onto you.

13. Go someplace new every year that you have never been before.

December 2, 2008

Wordless "Im so Proud" Wednesday

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Thats my son receiving an award in Iraq.

December 1, 2008

Ways to spot a liar

They avoid direct answers - Liars sometimes imply answers instead of denying something directly. This allows them to avoid lying by not making admissive statements.

Are they defensive? Guilty people usually get defensive at the first indication of an accusation whereas honest people will get offensive.

Watch their eye movement - The eyes of dishonest people will tend to move around a lot to avoid meeting your gaze. However, staring at your eyes for prolonged periods is also an indicator of a lie.

How is their stance? - Liars often feel uncomfortable standing directly in front of an accuser and may avoid standing with their shoulders squared to yours. Instead, they might stand slightly to the side or with their shoulders offset.

Look at their expressions - Expressions are limited to the mouth, e.g. if a liar fakes a smile, he will only use selected muscles whereas a natural smile utilizes muscles over the whole face.

Are they playing with something? Liars will play with objects in their possession such as a handbag, bracelet, mobile phone or hair. They may also put an obstruction between themselves and the other person, often something as simple as a coffee cup. This is a subconscious way of attempting to ‘barricade' themselves to relieve the tension of lying.

Watch that tone - A liar's tone of voice is often not consistent with his/her gestures or statements.

What are they saying? Dishonest people will often use sarcasm when answering accusations.

Did they answer your question? - A liar uses your words to answer questions, e.g. Q: "Did you have sexual relations with this woman?" A: "I did not have sexual relations with that woman."

Check out the details - Dishonest people will add unnecessary detail to the conversation; this is an attempt to comfort the other person.

Did it make sense? Often liars' words won't make sense and their grammar may be incorrect. This is because a liar's mind is racing in search of a convincing answer and the signals to the mouth are sent incorrectly.

Choosing Hospice

As many of you know, I work for a hospice company. When I took this job, I received alot of negative feed back. Not because of hospice itself but because most people think its a very depressing job. For those of you that don't know or understand what it is, I will explain it to you. Hospice is a program that provides palliative care and attends to the emotional and spiritual needs of terminally ill patients at an inpatient facility or at the patient's home. The patients general have 6 months or less to live. When you decide that hospice is what you or your loved one needs, you also have to agree to no further aggressive treatment. Which means, if you have cancer you agree to no chemotherapy. We focus on comfort measures during the last stage of a persons disease. Our company also has social workers that help the families apply for food programs, get vouchers from utility companies, and help families plan funerals. It takes a special kind of person to do this.

Many people feel that by choosing hospice, they have given up. That isn't necessarily the case. We have had people discharge off of hospice and decide that further aggressive treatment would be a better option. However, in order to qualify for our programs, a physician makes the determination that the person is terminally ill and would not benefit from aggressive treatment. Physicians aren't God though. All they can do is speculate, miracles happen every day. Our staff is on call 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Considering I spent 15 years working for hospitals and medical groups trying to cure the sick, this was a completely different avenue to take. It has completely changed my aspect of the service in general. I started this job the same week my father died. How is that for timing? They were the most understanding people I could have hoped for. Not only was I paid for bereavement, but I got comfort from all the staff, including the Chaplin. I want people to know that hospice isn't a bad thing. They provide pain relief and try to make your last days on earth as comfortable as possible. It isn't for everyone but don't count it out completely because of the title. Hospice companies are available all over the world. If you have questions, don't be afraid to ask. They understand your concerns and are there to help.

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November 30, 2008

Raiders VS. Chargers

If you cant beat them, join them. Yep, its true. I have gone from a Football hater to a watcher. My man loves football. He is a Raiders fan thru and thru. So, I decided to pick a team this year and follow suit. My team, the Chargers. Why, you ask? The uniforms. I think the dusty blue jerseys are cute. This Thursday, we are going to see the Raiders VS. the Chargers in San Diego. I had to buy the tickets for the Raider side since this was a birthday present for DBF Michael, but I will be rooting for the Chargers to win. Of course, since I will be sitting on opposing teams side, my cheering will be internal. I will do my best not to jump up and yell when and if the Chargers make a touchdown. Come on, I'm not stupid. Have you seen the Raider Nation? There is no way in the world I would sit on their side and say anything except, "Go Raiders!!"

I have come along way since last year. I was fighting a losing battle against Sunday football. Now that I understand a little bit more about the game, its not so bad. I think I started my appreciation with last years Superbowl. What a game!! Talk about intense. I'm not sure if either one of our teams will make it to the Superbowl this year but I'm not going to give up hope. Come on Thursday!! Its gonna be a good game.

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November 29, 2008

The Lesbian Christmas Light Debacle

Putting Christmas lights up has never been rocket science, at least thats what I thought before today. All you have to do is connect strands of lights together, put them up, and VIOLA! Instant lights. Right? Nope, not at our house. DBF Michael and I did a fine job of working as a team to get the job done. You connect the male ends to the female ends until its long enough to fit around the house. Piece of cake? You would think so, wouldnt you? What if you put up all of your lights and find out that there is no way to plug them in? Yep, that's what happened to us. We started out with the female end, meaning the end that something plugs into, and ended up with a male end. No problem. There were enough lights to go around the house and make it a beautiful display of green and red. So, the job is finally done and its time to plug them in. Well, the end that we have always used, which goes thru the spare bedroom window, was a female end., we get an extension cord. You have to plug in the male end to the female end...and what do you have? Another female end. No matter how many extension cords you use, you still are left with a female end. How do you plug them in?

We both looked at each other, thinking to ourselves, what in the heck did we do wrong? I don't remember Christmas lights ever being this difficult but we couldn't come to a conclusion that worked. The only way to fix it would be to take down all of the lights and start out with a male end...something that can plug into something else. No way!! The whole house is done and now we have to redo it? Nope, instead, we decided to make it work from the other side of the house. We put an extension cord up and over the rafters, around the garage door, and thru the tiny vent at the bottom of the farthest wall in the garage. Where there is a will, there is definitely a way. The moral to this story?? Before you decide to put up your lights, think twice. Whatever you do, don't start out with the female end if that's the one you are using to plug them in. You will end up in the same situation.....In the dark trying to string up lights. It wasn't an easy task and had us both scratching our heads but we pulled it off!! For the record, two female ends wont work no matter how many extension cords you have. You need a male and a female to pull it off.

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November 28, 2008

Gossip Magazines

My guilty pleasure for this week is gossip rag's. You know the ones Im talking about. When you are waiting in line a the grocery store and they are staring you straight in the face? There is always a picture or article that grabs your attention. You pick it up, and BAM, you're hooked. I personally read them from front to back. No page goes unturned, no article is unread. I love this stuff. Its funny, the stars will tell you that its all a bunch of crap. However, when they say certain couples are having issues, the next month you see them in divorce court.

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The thing that cracks me up the most is the "bump watch". Heaven forbid one of those women has a little water retention. If you are stick thin and gain 5 pounds during that time of the month, you are sure to be a target. Some of them are actually pregnant and will dodge that question until they are ready to deliver (thank you Christina Aguilera) but the majority of them arent. It would be tough to be in the public eye all the time. No wonder they have eating disorders. These magazines are notorious for photo modification. They can make someone who is a little chubby look as big as a house. Of course, their idea of chubby is a size 4. I dont read it for that, although it is quite funny. I just like to find out who's dating who and whats going on in Hollywood. I dont care about Lindsey Lohan or Paris Hilton, as they are regulars. Although, I did tune in when they both went to jail. Paris hasnt been the same since. Thank God.

I guess you can say Im addicted, and I love my drug of choice!

November 25, 2008

Wordless Wednesday

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I see you! Thanks for stopping by.

November 24, 2008

What an awesome movie!!

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DBF Michael and I went to see Changeling this weekend. Wow, what a movie! Angelina Jolie threw down quite a performance. I think what made it even better, or more terrifying, is that is was based on a true story. A mother prays for the return of her kidnapped son. When her prayers are answered, however, she begins to suspect the boy who comes back is not her child even though the police chief keeps telling her it is. For every single mother out there, this would be your worst nightmare. I don't want to ruin the story by saying too much. We both enjoyed it. Even though it was over 2 hours long, I had no idea we had been sitting there for that amount of time. That's how good it was. Kudos to Angelina and John Malcovich (one of my favorite actors anyway) for making this a spectacular movie.

Two big thumbs up!!

I own a home!

For the first time in my life I can actually say that I'm a home owner. What a great feeling and I couldn't have done it without my Dad. Unfortunately, he is no longer with us but there isn't a day that goes by I don't think about him. I'm 42 years old and have spent 20 years raising kids. The majority of that on my own. Robbing Peter to pay Paul was a regular occurance in our rented duplex apartment. At times I thought I would never make it thru. Unrelenting, is a very good word to describe me. That's what you have to be as a single parent. I just found out, also, that my loan was approved. I can now go forward with the changes I want to make to my house. Ive thought about planting a tree in my Dads honor as a memorial and to show thanks for what he has done for me.

Let me give you a little back story, he is not my biological father. He adopted me when he married my mother. I was only 4 at the time. Even after their divorce, which was only 5 years after their marriage, he still continued to be my Dad. His name was put on my birth certificate and he never made me feel any different than my sisters, who were his biological children. In the end, we all got houses without mortgages. I have alot of work to do on the house but it doesn't matter because MY name is on the deed. No words could ever express the gratitude and love I have for him. And sometimes when I'm alone, I can feel him watching over me. He wasn't a very verbal man when it came to saying "I love you", but we always knew he did. If I could say one thing to him now it would be "Thanks for all you've done Pop. I love and miss you very much." Now, its time to celebrate. Then, off to the store for a tree I think my Dad would like. Dont ever give up hope. Everything happens when its time. Be patient because good things come to those who wait.


I think happiness is something you decide. You can either live your life miserable or except what it’s given you and make the best of it. We all have our ups and downs. You wouldn’t be human if this wasn’t the case. Misery, on the other hand, loves company. If you have ever been around someone that is always unhappy, it brings you down. You can try your best to change their perspective but I think it’s a decision they make. Some people like being that way. Chronic complainers are also a challenge. You know the type, nothing ever makes them happy. How do they get like that? My depression comes and goes and it generally coincides with a certain time of the month or a particular time of the year. The holidays, especially Christmas, can be hard for me. I lost someone very important in December and it just hasn’t been the same since. This year may be even more of a challenge with my son being in Iraq. It will be the first Christmas of his life that we haven’t been together. I’m going to stay as cheerful as I can for his benefit, at least while I’m talking to him. I wouldn’t want him to feel worse than he already does.

Life is tough. We have things we regret but learn to make the best of it and move on. If your life is always filled with “what if’s”, who is busy living your “now” moments? Trying to make everyone happy all the time can be exhausting. Have you ever heard of negative energy? It’s a vibe a person puts out and it radiates through a room in no time. If you think you have a problem with this, try looking at life a little different. Have you ever thought about what you have instead of what you don’t have? When was the last time you gave thanks for your blessings? Everybody has them. Are you employed? Do you have a roof over your head? Is your fridge stocked? Are there people that love you? Don’t focus on the negative but rather, make the best of what you have. We only have one chance here on earth. Why not make the best of it? What could you possibly have to lose? Try smiling next time you feel bad. Its surprising how much better it can make you feel.

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November 21, 2008

Guilty Pleasures

DBF Michael had a great idea for a post. He suggested I do an article each week of things that bring me pleasure. My guilty pleasure for this week is Gordon Ramsay.

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Have any of you watched Hell's Kitchen? What about Kitchen Nightmares? I love it!! Hell's kitchen is more of a reality "who's the best chef" kinda show. Kitchen nightmares is a whole different ball game. He is asked by different restaurant owners to come in and "SAVE" their business. He can be very brutal, or is that brutally honest? Its funny, first he meets them, then they feed him their best dishes, and he gives them his opinion. Its NEVER good. I always thought it was funny because when he eats, his fork is upside down. According to DBF Michael, that's a British thing. I don't know if I could be an owner of a business and handle what he has to say but man is it fun watching their responses. In the end, he saves the day. He teaches the staff about simple cooking, he modifies the menu, and then redecorates the decor. After that, he returns to find out how things are going. Most of them end up with a booming business. Others, go back to their old ways or lose their restaurants all together. I think he's great.

We just found out he has a restaurant in LA. I looked at the menu and its a bit pricey. However, I think if Ramsay had anything to do with it, it will be FABULOUS!!. If you haven't checked him out you really should. Its pure comedy and you might even learn something especially if you are thinking about opening your own business. The filth that he walks into most of the time has really made me think twice when choosing a restaurant. Thank You Gordon....You rock!

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November 20, 2008

Child support and visitation

Did you know that if a non custodial parent doesn't pay their child support, they can still see the kids? I was told, when my children were younger, that it didn't matter if my ex husband was a dead beat Dad or not. He could still have visitation with the children. Now does that seem right to you? We as custodial parents are there for homework, illness, school clothes, dentist visits, late night feedings, skinned knee's, teenage attitudes and we pay for everything our children need to survive. They, in turn (meaning the dead beat Dads) can come in when they feel like it and see their kids without having any financial accountability. As a matter of fact, if we refuse to let them see our children, we can be arrested for violating a court order. What that tells me is, its OK not to pay child support because you're going to be able to see your kids anyway.

My ex husband had no remorse for the financial burdens I endured. He was too busy feeling sorry for himself or chasing after his drug addicted wife. If I brought up the fact that I was having problems making ends meet, he would change the subject or start a fight about the amount of back child support he owed and how unfair it was that the DA was keeping a tally. Of course, that was when he actually called or showed up to take the children. For many years, I hated him. I think that if a non custodial parent
doesn't pay child support, and they are perfectly capable of working, they shouldn't have visitation rights. The only inconvenience the DA does is take away their license. Which I find ironic. If you cant get to work, how can you be expected to pay? There has to be a better alternative. It didn't really affect my ex because he left the state and got a new license in Tennessee. Something else needs to be done for these repeat offenders. Although, I'm not sure what that is. The child support dilemma is a system that has been broken for years. It isn't getting better, its getting worse. If two people come together and have a child, they should both have equal responsibility in raising it/them. Both financially and emotionally. Wouldn't you agree? And women that keep children away from fathers that really want to be there for their kids need to be addressed as well. It a two way street. Not all fathers are bad. Some actually want to see there children. How did this system get so messed up? Who really suffers? The children, thats who.

November 19, 2008

TT #83

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13 words of wisdom for women.

1. If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.

2. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.

3. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.

4. Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always knows where you are, and your always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.

5. Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.

6. You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.

7. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

8. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.

9. Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.

10.Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.

11.The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

12.Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?

13. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat ON you.

November 17, 2008

Meals for under $5.00 dollars

Porcupine Meatballs

This recipe only requires a few ingredients and is easy to prepare.

1 package (6.8 ounces) beef-flavored rice mix
1 egg, beaten
1 pound ground beef
2-1/2 cups boiling water

Set contents of rice seasoning packet aside. In a bowl, combine the rice and beaten egg. Add beef and mix well. Shape into 1 inch balls. In a large skillet over medium heat, brown the meatballs on all sides. Meanwhile, in a small bowl combine the seasoning packet and boiling water. Add to skillet; cover and simmer for 30 minutes or until the rice is tender. About 8 servings for around $4 for the entire recipe or 50 cents a serving.

Cheesy Pull Apart Biscuits

2 cans of can biscuits (about 60 cents)
handful of shredded cheddar (about 50 cents)
half cup melted butter (75 cents)
desired amount of garlic powder or garlic salt

Cut each biscuit into four pieces, in half and half again. Mix butter and garlic. Put quartered biscuits into baggie. Pour in garlic butter mixture. Shake well try to coat all. Put half into loaf pan cover with cheese. Put in other half and add more cheese.

Bake at 350 till done in the middle. Slice like homemade bread really tasty with spaghetti.

Tortilla Pizza

1 package of flour tortilla any size you want
1 can pizza sauce or spaghetti sauce (will only use about 1/2 of pizza or
1/3 of spaghetti)
1 8oz pkg mozzarella cheese
Whatever toppings you would like we use mushrooms and pepperoni

Top flour tortilla with sauce, cheese and toppings and bake at 450 for about
5-8 minutes or until cheese is melted. Very cheap and kid friendly.

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Simple Goulash

1 pound ground meat
4 cups cooked rice (approx. 2 cups uncooked)
1 can tomato soup
1 can cream of mushroom soup
4 slices of American cheese

In large skillet brown ground meat with salt and pepper to taste. Drain fat. Turn heat to med./low. Add cooked rice and both soups. Mix well and then smooth out in skillet. Top with slices of cheese and heat until cheese starts to slightly bubble.

Teenagers suck

I was listening in on a conversation at the office today. The general consensus, teenagers suck. Not only do they give you lip when you ask them to do something, they don't listen, you have to tell them 100 times to do something, they think they're smarter than you, and now days, they are into hardcore drugs and violent crimes. No, not all but many. Yes, I know kids have always done stupid things. Hell, I did. How did my mother survive? First of all, I didnt disrespect her. Second, If I gave her lip, she beat my butt. Where do kids learn that we owe them something? I worked hard raising my two boys. A very close friend of mine is going thru it right now. Her 18 year old son stole her ATM card. The reason he gave her for taking it.....she owed it to him? Excuse me??? If either one of my sons ever said that to me (after they gained consciousness), they would be out on the streets quicker than I could pack a trash bag. How disrespectful can you be? She is a single mother struggling to make ends meet and he pulls this crap!

Another single mother I work with was talking about how her son told her he didn't have to do what she told him. Since when? If you think you know it all, there's the door. Its time for a reality check. My kids have pulled their fair share of crap. Especially my the next level. Neither one of them, however, stole anything from me nor did they tell me they didn't have to do something. My youngest will have every excuse in the book as to why he shouldnt do it, but in the end I always win. I think it was the fear of losing their life that kept them from pulling such a stunt. As a single parent, the first thing you need to do is lose the guilt. Don't let your child get away with anything because you feel guilty for divorcing their mother/father. They will use that against you and play it to the end. Be strong. My boys may have been bigger than me but I could take both of them out. And they know it. My advise, discipline your children. That doesnt mean beat them, that means find out what works. Start young because by the time they become teenagers, if they havent learned any lessons, they can make your life miserable. Remember who is in control and dont back down an inch!

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November 16, 2008

Boob jobs

October was breast cancer awareness month. Considering I'm in the medical field, cancer is a big part of my world. That being said, lets talk about boobs and their significance because there are a few things I don't understand. First of all, why do you need them (boobs) to feel like a woman? We are all unique, beautiful people that shouldnt be judged merely by whether we have them or not. And, what is the importance of the size? OK, if you ask a man, you know he will say the bigger, the better. Of course, Ive also heard that more than a mouthful is a waste. Teenagers and woman all over the world are getting breast enhancements. Why? I had a very close friend of mine (who had a boob job) tell me I would never understand because I'm not flat chested. Do women do it to attract men? And if that's true, why would you want a man that is only interested in the size of your breasts?

The thought of putting something inside my body that was foreign (didn't belong there), scares the crap out of me. You hear horror stories all the time about botched surgeries and women being disfigured for life. Was it worth it? Do you feel so poorly about yourself that you have a need to take that type of risk? Don't get me wrong, I think a boob lift is a good thing. With that type of surgery, they do modifications to make you perky again. However, they use your own parts. After having children, this isn't a bad thing. Did you know that women who have breast enhancements have to go back after 10 years to get them done again? The surgery isn't an easy one. Ive seen many women in severe post operative pain. Its become a fad, and alot of women are jumping on the band wagon. Do your homework. If this is something you cant live without, make sure the surgeon is experienced and check their references. Then ask yourself, are you doing it for you or for someone else? And men, is it really that important? Would you base your love for a woman on the size of her breasts? Id really like to know.

A shout out to my readers

Id like to give a shout out to my readers. I don't know if you have experience with Feedjit, but it lets me know all of the live traffic coming to my blog, along with the places people are coming from. It will even give me a shot of their house and the area they live it. It also tells me what people were looking for when they came to my blog. Ive noticed that I have fans who are local, across the state, and overseas. From Belleville, Michigan, Phoenix, Arizona, San Diego, California, Redlands, California to Rabca, Zilina,Vancouver, Waco, Texas, British Columbia, and Montreal, Quebec. I have quite a following in the Philippines. I want you to know I appreciate all of you. I think it is awesome that I am reaching so many people all over the world. Please don't hesitate to contact me if there are questions you have regarding my blog. I love my readers and will listen to any suggestion. My expertise is Single Parenting but that's not the only thing I have experience with. I try to keep it real and be as honest as I can. So, to all of you in the Internet world, thanks for stopping by and making my day!

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November 15, 2008

Safe Haven Law

Have any of you heard about the “Safe Haven” law? It typically lets parents remain nameless to the court, often using a numbered bracelet system as the only means of linking the baby to the mother. Police stations, hospitals, rescue squads, and fire houses are all typical locations to which the safe haven law applies. All 50 states have "safe haven" laws, but the others apply only to infants less than 1 year old. Nebraska was one of the last states to introduce this. Only the District of Columbia is without such a law. People from all over the country are taking their children and dropping them off. Some of them driving for miles to get their kids to Nebraska. Three fathers walked into two hospitals in Omaha and abandoned their children. One left nine siblings, ages 1 to 17. Last week, a 13-year-old girl was left. The week before that, two boys ages 11 and 15. In all, fathers, mothers and caregivers in six families, some of them single parents, have bailed on 14 kids, including seven teens, since the law took effect in July. I believe that number has jumped since then to about 35 kids.

What I want to know is, where was this law when I had an unruly 16 year old 4 years ago? There were times I really wanted to give that kid up for adoption but who would take a 16 year old with a drug, alcohol, and attitude problem? It seems the legislators could not agree on a specific age limit, choosing "child" instead, which applies to anyone aged 17 or under. Man, did they open up a can of worms. Teenagers are making up the largest number of abandoned children. Gee, I wonder why? For all of you having problems with your teens, maybe you should enlighten them on this law. It may make for a really quick attitude adjustment. Since the law states no person shall be prosecuted for any crime based solely upon the act of leaving a child in the custody of an employee on duty at a hospital licensed by the State of Nebraska, they are really opening up the flood gates. Good luck in back peddling on this one guys!

November 13, 2008

The Mistress

I’ve often wondered the logic behind being the other woman. I mean, if the guy is cheating on his wife and/or girlfriend, what makes you think he won’t cheat on you? It happened to me. My ex husband had an affair. I didn’t find out until a year after I left him but the way I found out was pretty comical. He worked odd hours and hooked up with a fellow employee. After seeing what she looked like, I had to laugh. Anyway, I got a call from “Beth” one day. I had already moved on and was in another relationship so it really didn’t affect me much but it did answer some questions. Beth called to tell me that my ex was cheating on her, and she was so mad, she wanted to come clean with me by telling me she had an affair with my husband while we were married. I found it quite ironic. It didn’t come as a blow to me. I was surprised but not upset. However, in looking back, the time frame she said that they had begun their affair was right around the time that we stopped having sex. We went from “doing it” daily, to once a week, if that. It was like a light switch turned off and our marriage was on the down hill slide to divorce court.

I’m not a patient person and I must admit I’ve been guilty of not sticking around long enough to try and make it work. If I am not happy, I move on. We had been together 7 years so maybe it was the 7 year itch. There is another side to this story though. I am just as guilty as he was. His best friend, and our neighbor, was always flirting with me. He had a girlfriend that I couldn’t stand. She was one of those girls that would go around braless trying to attract attention, problem was, she was butt ugly. So, when my ex wasn’t there to satisfy my needs, his best friend was. I probably should have felt guilty, but I didn’t because they weren’t married. If they had been, I would have never gone there. Anyway, that doesn’t make it right and I’m a big believer in karma, at the time though, it was something I needed. Our affair went on for a year, long after I left my husband. When I found the man I wanted to start a relationship with, I ended the affair. Statistics say a husband rarely leaves his wife for the mistress. In this case, I let her have him without even knowing about her. If things change drastically without a reason, Id do some research. Chances are you probably aren’t getting the full story. Listen to your gut. If I hadn’t been fooling around myself, I may have been more receptive to the signs the Universe was sending me.

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November 12, 2008

Faking Orgasms

Why do women fake orgasms? That is something I could never understand. You hear about it a lot but Ive often wondered why? Telling your partner what you want really isn't that difficult. If you are intimate enough to lay naked with this person and have sex, isn't it your obligation (for yourself) to tell them what you want if what they are doing isn't working for you? You would be surprised at how many men really love this kind of feedback. Its much better than them trying and not hitting the spot, then you end up faking it (not me but rather him find the spot), and he feels like he has totally rocked your world. Yes, it does wonders for their ego but its taught them nothing. There are men that don't care whether you climax or not, but that's not the majority. And the few that Ive been with, didn't get a sequel.

In thinking back, Ive only offended one man (that I know of) and we had been together for a while. The reason, I was tired of needing to satisfy myself before we had sex. I don't know if he was lazy, selfish, or just thought he didn't need to doing anything but my exact words to him were, "Don't you know what you're doing?" True, it takes a little longer for a woman to have an orgasm but so what. Woman are aroused by touch, intimacy, and lots of foreplay. Men can get hard at the drop of a hat. Wouldn't you want your partner to be satisfied? I know If I'm doing something wrong, I want to know. Although, its much clearer on men. If they're not hard = not doing something right. Oral pleasure can be a wonderful thing for both people involved. I know sometimes I feel like my orgasms don't come quick enough but the more you become uptight about it, the longer it takes. And men, its all about location, location, location. If you notice your woman is breathing a little faster or her legs are starting to tense up, DON'T STOP what you're doing. One movement can lose the momentum you worked so hard for. Faking orgasms isn't fun or fair. Woman are more outspoken now than ever before so don't let it stop in the bedroom. Tell your man what you want. He really needs to know.

November 11, 2008

Wordless Wednesday

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Where's the womans version?

November 10, 2008

Pro Choice

I’m glad proposition 4 didn’t pass and I’m going to tell you why. First of all, for those who don’t know, it required a waiting period and parental notification before termination of a minor’s pregnancy. I understand that abortion shouldn’t be used for birth control. I also know that the majority of teenage girls will not tell their parents about an unwanted pregnancy. Should they be having sex before marriage? No. Are they going to have it anyway? Yes. You did and so did I. We have come along way, why would you want to turn back the hands of time? Do we really want our kids in back alleys with coat hangers or babies being born and thrown in the trash cans?

I had an unwanted pregnancy at 16. I was able to tell my mother and she helped me make my decision. She also went with me to get an abortion. Am I proud of it? No, and I would never want to go thru that again mentally. I was too young to have a baby and yes, too young to be having sex. I did, however, end up marrying the father, which was another mistake. People shouldn’t judge other people for their choices. We have a family planning click across the street from my work and I see how they make those poor girls feel. Its awful. No one in this world is perfect. We all make choices that affect our lives and the lives of others. One thing everyone needs to remember though, we live is a free country and its our right to choose. Roe vs Wade was passed years ago. To go back in time would be a grave injustice to women, whether you agree with abortion or not. The fact that the proposition did not pass lets me know that Im not the only one with these feelings. You have to be realistic about life. Living in a fantasy world will get you no where.

November 9, 2008

Absolutely DELISH!!!!

Last night was date night. We went to LA to see Jim Gaffigan (the comedian) for my birthday. We stumbled upon a restaurant by accident and I'm so glad we did. The restaurant is called OPUS. Its at 3760 Wilshire Blvd in LA. They call their food American Freestyle. Im not sure what that means but it works. I ordered the Fillet Mignon with sauteed vegetables. OMG, it was the best dinner Ive had in a very long time. I don't know if its because Ive been on Nutrisystems for the past month that it really amplified the experience by 1000, but DBF Michael also concurred with my opinion. On Nutrisystems I am able to flex on the weekend so I can eat normal food I just have to follow the portions and diet plan, which makes staying on the diet a lot easier. The decor in the restaurant is very dark and romantic with dim lighting, a real cool waterfall in the middle, and classic soft rock in the back ground. They had great service as well. We got there before they actually opened and they seated us anyway. I would have to say that the sauteed vegtables were the best Ive ever had. I tasted a hint of garlic and maybe a dash of ginger. Whatever it was, it definitely worked. I HIGHLY recommend a trip to this fantastic resturant if you are ever in the area. Their prices are about what you would pay at any fine dining restaurant but it is worth it. The next excuse we have to go to LA, the OPUS with definitely be on the agenda!

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November 7, 2008


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High Expectations

Ive learned alot of things over the years. One thing took a little longer than others and thats not to have high expectations. If you dont, you wont be let down. That can go for many things including a raise at work, a holiday, a relationship, or other peoples actions. I guess I should probably rephrase that. You really should have high expectations in a relationship but you also have to take into consideration your partner and their capability. Men and women are never on the same wave length. However, that doesnt buy you a "get out of jail" free card. Men should never stop striving to impress their women. True, we are more perceptive but it isnt rocket science. Although, I am sure we born with this gift. We notice things more often, take mental notes, and learn about the other person inside and out. Thats how we nuture the ones we care about.

Details are important. And yes, its the little things that count. If you think you have totally screwed something up, a little gesture can redeem you in a heartbeat. Women are sentimental. They love to be loved and to be shown it on a regular basis. In reality, we do more and expect the least amount back. Mothers are notorious for that. We put alot of expectations in the people we love, teenagers (more so) but all children are a perfect example of this. When they blow it, you need to put your high expectations aside and learn to deal with whatever life gives you. As a matter of fact, we should learn to have reasonable expectations of our offsprings to begin with. Not all kids are straight A students nor do they always make the right decisions. That statement should also be followed with the expectation being dependant on the situation.

Women do alot for the people we love, yet dont ask for anything in return. That doesnt mean we dont want it, it just means we arent expecting it....or are we? That also depends on the situation. If you love someone, dont let a day go by that they ever questions that. Love is more than a word, its an action. No, its many actions rolled into a lifetime.