The Mistress

I’ve often wondered the logic behind being the other woman. I mean, if the guy is cheating on his wife and/or girlfriend, what makes you think he won’t cheat on you? It happened to me. My ex husband had an affair. I didn’t find out until a year after I left him but the way I found out was pretty comical. He worked odd hours and hooked up with a fellow employee. After seeing what she looked like, I had to laugh. Anyway, I got a call from “Beth” one day. I had already moved on and was in another relationship so it really didn’t affect me much but it did answer some questions. Beth called to tell me that my ex was cheating on her, and she was so mad, she wanted to come clean with me by telling me she had an affair with my husband while we were married. I found it quite ironic. It didn’t come as a blow to me. I was surprised but not upset. However, in looking back, the time frame she said that they had begun their affair was right around the time that we stopped having sex. We went from “doing it” daily, to once a week, if that. It was like a light switch turned off and our marriage was on the down hill slide to divorce court.

I’m not a patient person and I must admit I’ve been guilty of not sticking around long enough to try and make it work. If I am not happy, I move on. We had been together 7 years so maybe it was the 7 year itch. There is another side to this story though. I am just as guilty as he was. His best friend, and our neighbor, was always flirting with me. He had a girlfriend that I couldn’t stand. She was one of those girls that would go around braless trying to attract attention, problem was, she was butt ugly. So, when my ex wasn’t there to satisfy my needs, his best friend was. I probably should have felt guilty, but I didn’t because they weren’t married. If they had been, I would have never gone there. Anyway, that doesn’t make it right and I’m a big believer in karma, at the time though, it was something I needed. Our affair went on for a year, long after I left my husband. When I found the man I wanted to start a relationship with, I ended the affair. Statistics say a husband rarely leaves his wife for the mistress. In this case, I let her have him without even knowing about her. If things change drastically without a reason, Id do some research. Chances are you probably aren’t getting the full story. Listen to your gut. If I hadn’t been fooling around myself, I may have been more receptive to the signs the Universe was sending me.