November 19, 2008

TT #83


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13 words of wisdom for women.

1. If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.

2. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.

3. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.

4. Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always knows where you are, and your always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.

5. Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.

6. You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.

7. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

8. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.

9. Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.

10.Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.

11.The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

12.Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?

13. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat ON you.

27 comments:

Nicholas said...

Good advice, though they happy equally as advice to men about women. I was always falling victim to 6 and 10 before I came to my senses.

Open Grove Claudia said...

Great advice Lori. I especially like the second one - basically you can't keep him if he wants to go. Of course there are entire industries designed to 'keep your man' sigh.

SandyCarlson said...

13 is soooo true! Thanks for this. I have made the mistake of hoping for different or being blind to what's in front of me. This is a reminder not to be that way.

Crazy Working Mom said...

Oh, Lori this is the best advice I've read in a long time. I love that compromise is a two way street!

SJ Reidhead said...

I know - but do I pay attention to these things - nah!

SJR
The Pink Flamingo
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bernieg1 said...

Number 3 is right on. Nothing makes me sicker than a woman who makes excuses for a bad man! Great tt and have a happy one!


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SuburbanGypsy said...

Amen. Amen. and Amen. I wish I had gotten this when I was in my teens and early 20's! THIS is exactly what I share with my sister, who is 19 and absolutely clueless.

Happy TT Everyone!

FickleMinded said...

i certainly agree!!

aliceaudrey said...

But also, a good relationship takes 100% from BOTH parties. Unluckily, 100% always feels like a little more when you're the one giving it.

Lori said...

Lots of great lessons on your list.

Heather said...

Excellent words of advice, Lori!

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Jen said...

Great advice...I hope that my daughter will always know that #7 is important! You have to be happy with yourself.

anthonynorth said...

Sometimes you've just got to take the plunge. Yes, it can end in disaster, but I got married 6 months after meeting my future wife, during which time we'd actually spent about a fortnight together in snatched weekends as we lived hundreds of miles apart.
Neither of us really knew each other, other than we just 'knew'. That was over 31 years ago, and we're still going strong.

Di said...

Great advice...too bad many of the people who read it will be wishing they had that advice 5, 10 or 15 years ago!!!

Sue said...

Good advice Lori! Common sense goes a long way in relationships :)

Michelle said...

Wonderful rules to follow. I agree with each one. Thanks for sharing.

Carol said...

Oh, yeah. I totally agree with most of that. The friends thing is great. There were a few times back in the day . . .

Wish I'd had this list 30 years ago.

jayedee said...

AMEN sistah!

Nina said...

Those were good and I here you about the compermise. My husband and I have issue with that one and I have to remind him it isn't always about his way.

bundleocontradictions said...

Very good stuff! I've been through most of it. And some of it, I wish I hadn't.
Happy Thursday!

Jennifer said...

OH my gosh, what a great T13 list. Great advice.

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tommie said...

This is very sound advice....

thanks for visiting my TT.

nicoleaustin said...

Great advice. Espeically number four.

Julia Smith said...

#12 is funny - except it's not...

~Just Me Miranda~ said...

Great words to live by. We should pass those down to our daughters!

Geriatric Nursing said...

wonderful list of good advice. A person can only walk all over you if you allow it.
Hope you have a wonderful Thanksgiving.

The Bumbles said...

Thanks for visiting our T13 (last trips taken). Your #5 is sound advice for all people in all facets of life.