The sex talk….when do you have it?

That’s a hard question to specify because each child is different. Now picture that you’re a single mother of two boys. What do you do then? How do you sit them down and say, “Look, I know you have questions about sex, wanna ask me now?” Although, I didn’t do half bad. I bought a book. I told my son’s to look through the book and if they had any questions, just ask. My oldest was too embarrassed (he was either 11 or 12), to ask questions but my youngest wanted to know everything about EVERYTHING. I used a banana to show them how to put condoms on. Masturbation was a little harder to explain, I mean, what do you say? I know as a girl, I learned about masturbation all on my own. I figured boys would too but my youngest actually had questions. It was probably because he was eavesdropping on his brother’s sex talk and he had no idea what in the heck the word meant. I tried to be as open minded as possible when talking to the them but its not easy when you’re a different sex than the one you’re trying to explain the facts of life to. At least with girls, you have a clue. Girls see the whole thing a little differently than boys. I think if you are open and honest with your kids, it should be like any other milestone you go through with them while growing up. I imagine it would be pretty tough for a single father to talk to a girl about those kinds of things too. Whatever you do, don’t refuse to have the talk because you aren’t ready for your child to grow up. That is a big mistake. I wouldn’t condone sex but I bought both of my boys a box of condoms just to be safe. Kids are going to do it whether we agree or disagree. I know I did. Be smart. We teach our children all through their lives what to do and what not to do, its up to them to make the decision. Make sure they have the right information to go on because some of the stuff they get from their friends is downright comical. If you want them to make the right choices, they need to know the truth.