April 9, 2008

Isn't your child more important?

I read a story today about a 2 year old girl that was beaten to death with a video game remote by the mother’s boyfriend. I don’t get it. I noticed quite a few child abuse cases when I worked in the hospital that were caused by a boyfriend or stepfather. The excuses they gave for the child’s contusion and fractures were absolutely amazing. And what's really crazy, they think we believe them. People in the medical field can spot an NAT (non accidental trauma) case from a mile away. They aren't fooling anyone. How can a mother allow that to happen to her child? They don’t ask to be brought into this world. When you give birth, it’s your job to love and protect your offsprings from harm. Heck, even animals do it. As a single mother, I never had this problem while my children were growing up. Let me rephrase that, I WOULDN’T have this problem because I would have killed anyone that tried to hurt my children. What are the mothers thinking? It happens with girlfriends and stepmothers too but not as often. Several of the kids have old wounds so the majority have been admitted to the hospital or were seen in the Emergency Room before. What gives any adult the right to beat on a child?? I know that some women feel stuck in certain situations and may be afraid to do something about it. However, if you can’t do it for yourself, do it for your child. They learn what they live, if they survive. Unfortunately, the child in the story will never know what its like to get her license or go to Senior Prom. Get help if you are afraid. Not only did the boyfriend get charged, so did the mother for letting it happen. No man or woman is worth your life or the life of your child. Call the Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline at 1-800-4-A-CHILD if you suspect abuse. Dont turn your back on our kids.


Pamela Kramer said...

I agree. I always have a hard time reading and hearing stories like this. I have a hard time with nanny stories. I have to admit I shut it out or change the channel or stop reading. I just can't handle it. Being a mom it's hard not to get angry about abuse. I can't imagine anyone hurting my babies.

Chris said...

Kids need to be taken care of, but many times the court system does not agree with the single Mom. My son had a guardian ad litem when he was 2. This attorney agreed w/my X's visitations requests and thus my son was in a DUI when he was 4. His entire car seat flew threw the truck windshield when my drunken X hit a tree. My son was okay, but it was not a good thing. Only then was I able to get a safer divorce settlement.
But I do agree, parents need to always place their kids first ! !

A Modern Mom said...

In the nicest possible way, I would also like to point out that it is not only giving birth that creates the responsibility to love and protect... both of my daughters are adopted and my heart was theirs the minute I saw their sweet little faces.

As an adoptive parent, I can only say that I wish that those parents that do not have the "parenting instinct" would allow their children to be adopted by those of us that love and adore children. I am eternally grateful that the biological mothers of my children made that choice.