April 18, 2008

A time to heal

In life, we go thru many ups and downs. This ever changing roller coaster ride is called "reality as we know it" and it might have certain people wondering if the Universe has a sense of humor. During the good times, the world is wonderful. You have to remember though, you cant always be happy. If you were, you'd never appreciate the good times for what they are. You would expect it. Hmmm, maybe that would be awesome but thats not how it works. That's why you accept the bad with the good. I believe in giving yourself time to heal. Divorce and/or break ups are hard and can be devastating to both your mind and your heart. You need to know you're not alone. Everyone has ups and downs. Heartache is one of the worst pains you can go thru, in my opinion. A broken heart will effect everything else in your life. How much time you need to heal depends on the person. I was in a long term relationship and it took me over a year to start feeling normal again. I actually needed the help of medication and counseling and I'm not ashamed to say that. Alot of people do it. Its ok if you dont think you can get thru something on your own. Sometimes telling your woes to a complete stranger it very refreshing. You get the opinion of a person that doesn't know anyone else in your life. They hear what you have to say and try to help you look at things logically. What we go thru in life molds us into the people we become. Whether that is good or bad depends on you. I think you can learn from your mistakes and grow as a person. You simply need to remember to breathe. Dont be too hard on yourself and give it time. In the end, it all happens for a reason. I truly believe in fate and that there is no such thing as coincidence. Dont let life get you down. Be good to yourself. After all, we are all only human.

2 comments:

Darla said...

So true. And those feelings of heartache seem like they're going to last forever. It's also good to remember (though it's certainly not easy) that it'll get better with time, if you let it.

There seems to be such a trend lately to expect others--and ourselves--to get over serious emotional hurts instantly, and it just doesn't happen. Recognizing that, I think, can help you be kinder to yourself, or to a friend who's in pain.

FRIGGA said...

Very good advise. I'm just about to hit the 1 year mark since my big break up, and I still think about him way too much. But you're right, it'll just take time. And it's also a GOOD thing we're not together anymore!

Happy Friday!!! :-)