March 7, 2008

Trust is key

Trust is the foundation to any relationship. Whether it be with a partner, a child, a sibling, or a friend. I think we start out in life trusting everyone. As a baby, your mother always takes care of your needs and you trust her to do so. Then you get older and learn that you cant rely on everyone. Your best friend sells you out as a child, your high school sweetheart dumps you and your heart is broken for the first time, you go thru your first divorce, and you get a taste of what the real world is all about. The person you swore to love, honor, and cherish is no longer the person you thought they were, in fact, you're not even sure you like them anymore. When you get into your 40's, you have had your fair share of heartache and disappointments. How do you get past that? Its not as simple as some may think. They say when you come out of a relationship, you should go into the next one like you have never been hurt before. Is that really possible? Those skeletons we try so hard to hide always show up and we are faced with a major dilemma. Everything needs to stop, for a brief moment in time, so we can lick the wounds of our past heartache before we can go on. Its not fair. I think, if children are taught how people should be treated in the beginning, there would be a lot less deception. I don't know if the trials we go thru as children of divorced parents has any part in what shapes us as a loving parent and partner, but something is definitely wrong. Is it too late? Has society as we know it completely lost the plot? Maybe its too late for me to start anew, but I'm hoping that my children's future will shine brighter than my pessimism. May they marry once, give me grandchildren, and live happily ever after. What?? It could happen, right? And for those of you who don't know what trust stands for, here goes: T=truthful, R=rational, U=undying, S=sincere, and T=tough, in a nutshell.

4 comments:

FRIGGA said...

After getting my heart broken, I end up very jaded - and I don't expect to meet anyone worth liking for quite sometime after such occurances. But then life moves on, and by the time the next special person crosses my path, all the jade is gone and I jump in head first and laughing.

Great post, and Happy Friday!! :-)

No Nonsense Girl said...

That's a great post. Trust is the key to real relationship. When I trust, it's 100%, without a doubt, with love...

After being hurt and stuff, It took a lot to work on trusting again. I have been able to select some fantastic people in my life to whom I offered my trust and I am growing on this and able to trust more.

Taking the risk to trust someone is great because I have found amazing people. Angels for me...

As always Lori, you rock. :)

Loved by Some said...

I like that TRUST. Yet, what do you do when your child lies to you, doesn't go to school, and being both mother and father are helpless to figure out what to do that will work for once? How do you cope when dealing with your child feels like every lost love, disappointment and hurt you've been throught?

Lori said...

I was in your shoes..believe me. My oldest son put me thru hell for 2 years. All you can do is never give up. I wanted to trust my son so badly but the lies came out of his mouth so naturally, he had me fooled...UNTIL, I started snooping, and going on myspace, and checking on where he was and when. I put locks on his windows and went thru his room when he wasnt home. Thats how I found out the truth and dealt with him when I had to. I would have him call from where he was suppose to be so the number would come up on caller ID. You just have to play along. He is now in the military and has become quite a respected young man who will be 20 in July. There is hope, you just have to be unrelenting. Teenagers lie...thats what they do. Beat them at their own game...always stay 2 steps ahead and punish them when they need it. Good Luck:)