January 14, 2008

Divorce

Divorce is such a harsh word. Technically, the term means the dissolution of a marriage contract between a man and a woman, by the judgment of a court of competent jurisdiction, or by an act of the legislature. Emotionally, it means my life is about to change drastically. One day you’re happy and content, everything is wonderful in your world, the next day you’re apartment hunting and fighting over who gets the sofa and matching love seat. When you go to the alter before God, you promise to love, honor, and cherish this person forever. How do people come to the determination that one person will make them happy “Until death do us part”? Forever is a long time. I’ve been there twice. Although, honestly, I knew the first one wouldn’t last. It took me a little convincing to go there a second time. That one didn’t work out either. I swore, after paying for the divorce, I would never get married again. However, that was a long time ago and never is a powerful word. I’m at the age now that I don’t want to grow old alone. My kids are almost grown and I want someone there for me. I think in your 20’s and 30’s, you see the world a lot different than when you’re 40. I want to get married again but I never want to go thru another divorce. Wouldn’t it be great if there were a lifetime guarantee on all the decisions we make? For those of you freshly coming out of a divorce, I’m here to tell you that you WILL survive. Life will go on and you will love again. I know, it’s happened to me.

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1 comment:

Bobbie said...

That's a very nice post, Lori -- particularly well said. Never give up hope that you'll find The One you can grow old with -- happily.