January 8, 2008

Positive Energy

People tend to put their positive emotions in the dark shadow of their negative feelings. This is one of the biggest problems we come across during our lives. It is very hard to ignore a negative experience and try to replace it with positive ones. No matter how strict and logical you want to be, you will always be a human being, not a robot. When you’re a child and lose a pet, it makes you extremely sad. Your parents can certainly buy you another pet, but the pain of the loss still takes a long time to go away. Things get even more serious as adults. A fight with your partner the night before will affect your entire day. You will go to work angry, tired, with your mind wandering. Then you will go home in an even worse mood. On the way from work towards home, you won’t be able to notice the sun shining and you won’t be tempted to stop at the supermarket and buy your favorite ice cream. That one negative thought is contaminating the way you perceive the reality around you. In this moment you will feel that finding a safe place to relax your mind would do wonders. And that place is relatively easy to find. It can be an actual location or an imaginary place. The best idea is to totally emerge yourself in it. Your mind will suddenly jump from the negative thoughts that dominated your last hours or days and start processing a whole new kind of information. A safe place can be in many forms. It can be a song, a movie, even a person. The main thing is to allow yourself to get completely involved in it. You might still get flashes of the problem every now and then but ignore them. Although, the safe place exists only as a helping hand, not as a solution to your problems. It is there to help you relax your mind, for a few minutes or hours. This is a vital stage in your solution to what is bothering you. You will return from your safe place with an increased energy level. You will feel better about yourself and gain more confidence that any issue can be resolved. This is how a small escape from a harsh reality can increase your fighting energy and allow you to solve even the most difficult problems. Above all, always remember that we cannot change things that had already happened and all the things happening around us, but we can develop positive energy to help us deal with the stressors in our life.

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

What you say about positive energy is true, but I have been learning that it is also much more. I received a book for Christmas called Positive Energy written by Dr. Judith Orloff that is truly amazing and has helped me to put my positive energy to good use. Not only have I seen quite a change in myself, but my dealings with my kids have improved considerably.