February 8, 2008

A life altering decision

Well, I finally did it. I've worked for my current employer for nearly six years and I decided to move on. It was one of the hardest decisions I had to make but one that had to be done. When you work for someone that purposely makes your life unbearable, there is no need to stay. That wasn't the only reason. Lord knows Ive had my share of bosses that were hard to deal with but they wanted to change my hours to something that would make my son a very lonely boy. I couldn't bare the thought of him eating dinner by himself every night and only seeing him for a short time before bed. Not to mention, they wanted me to work weekends and holidays. As a single mother, what do you do? Do you stick it out for fear of making a change or do you make a decision that you know will be the best one for your child? I've done alot of praying and soul searching in these past couple months and I think I have made the right decision. Its not easy for me to move past my comfort zone and into the unknown, but I felt that I had no other choice. When there are two parents living at home, you have someone you can rely on to help you with the parenting. If you're by yourself, you have to weigh the pro's and con's. I think any job that wouldn't take into consideration your responsibilities as a single parent is not the right job for me. I have only taken a slight cut in wages but that's a small price to pay for being able to spend time with my son. He is 16 and will only be around for a little while longer before I send him out into the world. He really needs my guidance now as he goes into the home stretch on his way to being an adult. If I chose to stay, I would have let him down. Leaving a job is never easy but I think the new company I will be working for is a place I can call home. I will not only be able to eat with my son every night and tuck him in, but spend my weekends with him as well. Don't let a job control your life. If you aren't happy, do the right thing and move on. When one door shuts, another one always opens. Wish me luck!!

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4 comments:

No Nonsense Girl said...

I'm proud of you girl!!!! You remain in my thoughts and prayers!!!!


Love and hugs :)

Darla said...

Congratulations on making the decision! Wishing you the best of luck. {{{hugs}}}

Chuck said...

you are so right - another door will open because that one is obviously needing to be closed or actually slammed shut. i dealt with so many abusive bosses on top of ridiculous hours myself and when i finally gave in to what i thought i was suppose to be doing (being stable - i had to prove something ... to somebody) all sorts of things opened up for me. your boy is so much more important and your happiness, in the long-run, will say it all to you and him. congrats.

The Gal Herself said...

Oh, this was hard to read! But you have made your decision and you're looking forward, not back, and that's the important thing! Sounds like your boss is confused -- our jobs are what we do, not who we are, and it's really twisted to need to put others down to reinforce your own power. You're better off. And probably happier.