June 22, 2008
When you're in a relationship there is one thing you need to learn, that's compromise. If you decide to move in together you REALLY need to understand it to the next level, especially if you've been living single for a while. Going thru what to keep and what to throw away can be a very tiresome job. I think its important to put things from relationships past in a safe place but definitely out of sight and mind. Its a clean start for two people coming together and unnecessary clutter from your past can be painful to both of you. If we are supposed to love like we've never been hurt then throwing memorabilia from old relationships away or putting them in our memory box is probably your best bet. You don't want to remember the old hurt or failures from your past when you're starting anew. Understanding that your significant other has their own taste and being willing to except moving a frilly thing for something more masculine is the first step to a happily ever after as well. Don't sweat the small stuff. It isn't worth it. Men and women have very different tastes and fighting over such things is just silly. Remember, you moved in together because that's what you wanted. No need to ruin it by disagreements over something petty. Relationships are hard enough. I suggest if there is something that you really don't agree on when it comes to decor, sleep on it. Ask yourself how important it really is then sit down and talk it thru. Make sure to give your reasoning for how you feel and hopefully a peaceful resolution can be found by all parties involved. This includes, but is not limited to, teenager's who throw fits over getting rid of livingroom furniture. Everyone needs to find a happy medium. After all, it really is just stuff. People are what is important. Wouldn't you agree?