July 12, 2008
Life as "We"
When you're single, you see everything as "I". I can go shopping, I can go bar hoping with my friends, I can go to the beach whenever I choose, I can do anything I want. When you become a couple, you are now known as "we". Sure "we" can come to dinner, "we'd" be glad to help you move, I'm not sure, let me ask my man and "we" will get back to you, "we" are buying a new house...blah blah blah, you get the point. Its a whole other mind set. People that have lived in the "I" world for a long time may have a harder time living in the "we" world. There are advantages and disadvantages to both. When you're single, you can come and go as want. You don't have to worry about what your counterpart thinks because there isn't one. You rule your own life and do things that make only YOU happy. On the flip side, the nice thing about being a couple is you don't get lonely. Someone is there to comfort and take care of you, you don't have to go to the show alone, you don't have to worry about eating in a restaurant alone, and if you want someones opinion, you've got it. Ive done them both, as most everyone has, and I prefer to be in a relationship. Of course, that's with the right person. All of the above is null and void if you're with a jerk. Sometimes life as "I" can be refreshing after a long battle as "we". Its funny though, have you noticed that the friends you have as "we" are no longer around when you become an "I"? Divorce and break ups not only split the house, incomes, kids, and furniture...it also effects your social life. Oh well, who wants to hang out with a bunch of married people when you're single anyway, right? To me, life is like a beach...you just have to roll with the waves. You cant plan your destiny, life has already done that for you. All you can do is enjoy the ride. Am I right?