June 11, 2007

Bullying in the workplace....

The definition states that bullying in the workplace means: "Persistent, offensive, abusive, intimidating or insulting behaviour, abuse of power or unfair penal sanctions which makes the recipient feel upset, threatened, humiliated or vulnerable, which undermines their self-confidence and which may cause them to suffer stress" Ive noticed that since becoming a single mother, I've had to put up with a lot more than I did when I was just taking care of myself. I hate it when people abuse their power. Its happened to me on more than one occasion with more than one employer and I cant figure out why?? Maybe it's because they know we have to feed our children so we have no choice but to put up with the abuse. Its not fair. Single parents are hard workers and they rarely take time off unless its an emergency, yet they are used and abused because of their desperation. We fight the system to get assistance, we fight our ex husbands/wives or ex boyfriends/girlfriends for money to help support our children...why should we have to battle in the workplace or be fearful of constantly losing our jobs because of a boss with an ego trip? All we want is to be the best parents we can be, teach our children right from wrong, and give them what they need to lead a happy, productive life. We work 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, year round. You cant call off sick at home if your a single parent because your children always need you. Its terrible when your fearful at your job because your dealing with people who abuse their power. Bullies are insincere, haughty, unreliable, and lack empathy and sensitivity to the emotions, needs, and preferences of others whom they regard and treat as objects or instruments of gratification. If your a single parent and feel that you are being abused in your workplace, I encourage you to step forward and report the behavior. We have enough to contend with in every day life, dealing with a bully should be the least of our worries. There is a fine line between being bullied and harassment (or is there???). If you don't get the answers you need from Human Resources, consulting with an attorney might be your next step.

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1 comment:

Amazing Gracie said...

I'm sorry you're having to deal with that! I had a "bully boss," too, but I worked for the county and I think she had the dirt on everyone!
Your sons are very handsome - you've done a terrific job, mom!
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