November 5, 2007

The hardest thing about dating….

I would have to say, the hardest thing about dating is breaking the ice. When you go thru dating sites, which I recommend, it makes it a little easier but it can be tedious. You ask the same questions and answer the same questions over and over again. However, you get very good and creative with your screening process. If you put enough info on your profile, like what you are looking for and what you don’t like, that weeds out the riff-raff. Usually, but not always. Sometimes you wonder if they even read the small print or if they look at the pics and just respond. Considering men are more visual than anything, that might be the case a lot of time. You can also take into consideration that maybe he doesn’t know how to read (I'm kidding) and just move on from there. If the guy doesnt take the time to find out what you want, that can also tell you that he may be self centered. Some guys have a sick sense of humor or are just perverts that are looking for sex. You can usually spot them in the first couple of sentences. I would delete them and report them to the website if their response to your profile was really bad (sick and twisted). Ignoring them works sometimes, but if he is a persistent pervert, you may need to take the next step. Then there is the first date. If you have been talking via e-mail or phone, it makes it a lot easier because you have something to talk about. You know a little about their world and they know a little about you. If you have never talked, that can be a little more challenging but doable. Dating can be fun. You meet a lot of different people and sometimes try new things. I know after a break up or divorce, you tend to be a little gun shy. My suggestion to you is, don’t be. It’s just like riding a bike and if nothing else, you can make a new friend if the there is no sexual connection. Dating can make you feel sexy and desirable so put yourself out there. It also gives you a good excuse to hit the sales rack at the mall for a new outfit. Ladies (and guys), Mr. and/or Mrs. Right is not going to come knocking on your door. Just do it and have fun!!

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1 comment:

katherine. said...

wise words as always... As a veteren of online dating, slow and careful are the ways to