October 13, 2008

Get ready, they're coming.....

With Summer over and Fall finally here, that reminds us that the holidays are quickly approaching. For some, this is the best time of the year. If your freshly out of a relationship, its the season you are dreading. Holidays are about love, family, and friends. Even if you're not in a relationship, you can still enjoy the same things. My suggestion though, switch it up a bit. Don't do the same thing you did as a couple this year. Go someplace different. Decorate the house with a new theme. Put the Christmas tree in a better location. And if you just aren't feeling up to the parties and family gatherings, skip it this year. There is no law that says you NEED to do anything, especially if it brings you pain or sadness. Don't throw a pity party though but instead, do something to spoil yourself. Go out with your friends for a drink. If you would rather not go on the holiday, do it the weekend before or after. Take the questions about your break up with a grain of salt. Most people don't ask..some do. If you don't feel like answering, say so. The holidays weren't meant to be a punishment for the newly single, they are merely a remembrance of happiness, childhood memories,and holiday cheer. Try seeing a movie on Christmas day. Something that will make you laugh. If these are your first holidays single, it will get better. Time does heal all wounds. Maybe not completely, but it makes them much easier to bare. Embrace the people in your life and enjoy yourself. I speak this as the voice of experience. Its not the end of the world, just a chapter in your life. Have fun. You deserve it, right?

1 comment:

storyteller said...

What sage advice for all of us …
Now IS all we have and taking time to savor each moment … participate fully in life … and connect with others ought to be a priority all of the time. The holiday season is an excellent time to establish this as a ‘regular and life-long habit’ …
Methinks we’d all be better off for it ;--)
Hugs and blessings,