January 27, 2009

Affairs in the workplace

Has your spouse or partner ever cheated on you with someone they work with? Its happened to me but I didn't find out until a year after the divorce. Its true, you spend more time with the people you work with than you do your loved ones, but is sleeping with one of them practical? First of all, what happens if it doesn't work? Not only could you lose your job, but imagine having to face that person on a regular basis. An affair is an affair, whether it be work related or not. And is it worth it? There are a million fish in the sea, would you really be willing to risk it all to get your rocks off? Is that person even someone you want a relationship with or are they just a piece of ass? Life is filled with choices. Its up to you to decide your fate. If you have a good thing now, why would you risk it? That's what I don't understand about affairs. You know what curiosity did to the cat, right?

When my marriage first started to show signs of distress, I had a feeling in my gut I couldnt shake. Its called women's intuition. Men can sense things too but its usually the women that figure it out first. Why? because we know how men think. And the funny thing is, women are just as deceptive as men. Sometimes better. I had an affair too with a coworker but it wasn't until there were problems at home. I wanted to see if I still had it. I did. Nothing became of it except it got really awkward to work with him. The thrill of getting away with something wasnt what it was cracked up to be. I ended up changing jobs. There is always going to be temptation but where is your heart? That's what really matters. If you're thinking about having an affair you need to think long and hard because if you are going to jeopardize what you have, maybe you shoulnt be there in the first place. If thats where your head is then get out before you do it. Show some respect for the person you once loved. Karma is a bitch.


Mojo said...

Heh. Damn right women can be just as deceptive. I've only been on the blindsided end of that equation, but I gotta tell ya... if the opportunity and circumstances had been right? Coulda been a whole different story.

I'm convinced the leading cause of divorce is... well, marriage.

Color me cynical.

Jes said...

hi lori im sorry to hear that....but cheer up coz i have a tag for you!!!

i dunno what to say bout this post, you know, i know how hard/painful it is for a loving wife like us...how I wish that would not happen to us, esp that divorce is not legal here.

Lori said...

Oh no Jes...this happened 15 years ago. No need to shed a tear for me. I was reflecting back. A friend was having an issue and it made me think of my past experience so I wanted to share. I know it happens alot but Im well over that one:) Thanks for caring though.....