When you are a single Mom or Dad, it's important for you to realize that you are more than just a parent. You are a person who has needs like any normal human and who deserves to have a social life. To help make the transition from Mommy or Daddy to date, lover, boyfriend or girlfriend, stop thinking of yourself as just a parent, and start thinking of yourself as an attractive, sexy single person. Take more care with your appearance than you might be in the habit of doing. When you're out doing errands on the weekend, wear something that flatters you, even if it's just a pair of great-looking jeans, instead of wearing cutoffs or sweats. Think about having a makeover or try a different haircut. Updating your wardrobe is also a good way to feel more attractive, desirable, and sexy. If you're still wearing a wedding ring, take it off now. In fact, shed any rings that would convey the message that you're unavailable.
I know how important it is to take care of your children by meeting their needs, but if you don't take care of yourself, you won't be able to take care of them. Look at it like an oxygen mask. Parents should always breathe into it first before dealing with their children and the struggles that come with everyday living. The theory is that if you don't get enough oxygen, you'll be unable to help your kids. Oxygen can include, but not be limited to: sex, sex, friendship, sex, did I mention sex? or just someone to have dinner with once a week. Whatever it is, don’t let it take a back seat in your life. It’s amazing how good you feel when you take care of your needs as well as your children’s. Have you ever heard the saying, “If Mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy?” There is definitely a lot of truth to that. Don’t wait, just do it.