January 19, 2009

The more you have it, the more you want it?

If those of you haven't figured out what I'm talking about, its sex. I have heard multiple people in different areas say that the more sex you have, the more sex you want. Also, when someone has a lot of sex, they submit some sort of aura or sent that makes them more desirable. Is that true? I have never lacked in the desire for sex, although time and exhaustion have played a factor over actually following thru with the pursuit on occasion. Is it true that a woman hits her sexual peek at 40 and a man at 18? That doesn’t seem fair. Almost like the Universe has played a practical joke on us all. I believe that some people are born more sexual that others. Men don’t corner the market in this arena. Women can be just as sexual.

If you are in a relationship and find yourself starved for affection, here are some pointers to help get your significant other in the mood:

Baby your partner for a while. Sometimes all women really need is to feel loved and desired and its no different for men.

Offer her/him a quick massage, nothing fancy or too long, just a brief rub down. It’s amazing how erotic that can become.

Don’t forget the romance. Who cares if you've been together forever why should that change anything?

Wear something that makes you feel sexy...this is for guys too. And women love a man that smells good. That’s a total turn on for me. Feeling sexy will make you want to have sex. You can go from a lady that feels bleak, to a freak in the sheets.

And to those who of you who are the one with the lack of desire. I suggest doing it even if you don’t want to. I know that’s hard and sometimes really out of the question but in the end, you really will feel better. Not to mention, it brings you closer together.

Sex isn’t supposed to be a chore, it was designed as a win/win situation. Of course, that can all depend on your partner too. Just have fun with it and remember to think about your partner on a daily basis. What can you do to show them you care? Let them know you want them. A woman that feels sexy will be sexy, with an emphasis on the SEX part. Remember that.


Mojo said...

If it were that easy I'd still be married. Okay, maybe not. But it would be for different reasons at least.

Sometimes it doesn't matter what you do or how well you do it.

BNS said...

Aww, poor Mojo. Someone had a bad experience. :-(

But I liked your post very much, Lori. I agree with the spirit of what you wrote. The whole key, I think, is mutuality. You're right when you say that if you both enjoy each other (in bed and otherwise) it really does not wear out! (I say this as a long-married older woman who still digs her husband big time!!)